story about my girlfriend's past...?

[serious george]

A couple of months after I meet my girlfriend, she starts opening up to me about her past relationships/ experiences. But there's this one story that haunts me and that I still think about even after almost one year had passed. I keep trying to interpret it and come to a conclusion but I can't seem to because I feel that she has only told me part of it, and maybe twisted it or stopped at a certain point. Her story is about going to a guy's place, who's an actor (not to mention he's well known as a womanizer/manwhore). He's like 20 years older than her..

 

Here is how it all starts; she was interested in seeing one of his plays once so she asked a question on his fb page, he personally replied to her inbox... bla bla bla So she goes up to his place after the first time they meet after his play. He starts playing mind games with her, and tells her that a good actor either makes you laugh, cry, or seduces you...

 

So he was "testing" if she were a good actor(bull****). He then asks her to seduce him. And so well she does, as she got naked for him(stayed in panties as she claims). So he pulls his dick out, and tries to "feed" her. She says she stopped him as he glazed her lips with his thing. Then he couldn't take it so he grabbed her and took her to his bedroom, shoved her on the bed, and tried to go down on her and tear her panties apart...

 

RIGHT THERE, she pauses and says that she kicked him away, and demanded to leave immediately! She says she went home immediately.

 

So, in her version of the story, "nothing" happened. she also says that she's been to his place a couple of times even after what happened! she had a couple of pics of them together on her laptop! she erased them recently thouh... I still feel like there are some loose ends...We've talked about it more than once and she always affirms that this is what happened. whenever i bring it up she gets mad..

 

Do you think she's told me the truth? How can I know the real truth? And don't you think she's to blame? She makes it seem like she's the victim. I'm just confused cause she always tell me that i'm the first guy she was ever physically/sexually close to...

 

i'm confused, thanks for any help

[Hurting123]

Go with your instinct on this.

 

Yeh it sounds like more happen.

 

I think she feels guilty for liking him. Because he probably wasn't a good idea.

I think she has warped the true version in her mind and what really happen.

 

He ripped her clothes off etc and she went back??

She kept photos of what would ordinarily be traumatizing to someone?

 

It doesn't make sense

 

If you want to know the truth ... It's simple.

 

You need to wait for a moment when you both feel very close to each other.

And just stop and explain yourself to her.

 

Tell her how much you love her. Tell her how it just plays on your mind even after a year. Don't accuse her. Don't overwhelm her with anger.

Just tell her that you just don't understand what really happen.

Tell her that you want to be able to tell her everything and you want her to be able to tell you everything. Tell her it's ok. You just want to know for your own insecurities. Be genuine and warm. Not like a maths teacher. But like someone who loves her and won't change the way you feel about her.

Ask her what really happen?

 

Normally I never ask about a girls past.

There is always something there that will make you go insane.

The only thing I ever want to know... Have you ever cheated on someone. And if the answer is yes. I walk away.

 

But I can kind of understand how you feel.

I remember a girl I was with who I really really liked. Then my friend one day told me that my girl was once dating this manwhore older guy.

I had to know... And yeh she did.

Everytime she gave me oral sex ... I couldn't get the image of her doing it to him out of my head. Just oral sex for some reason.

 

But yours is a question of assault. I just don't understand how this could be if she went back and kept photos. It's impossible to say.