ludovicgiuly Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 Hello, My girlfriend and I are having problems in our relationship. We've been together for almost six months now and we are both desperate to make this work and to get back on track. The problem we've been having lately is to do with my past. I was in a relationship around two years ago, which was serious and involved one time sex. It was very difficult to tell Holly about this because I completely regret what happened and I was worried if I told her at the start she would lose interest in me completely. I was a very different person back then, and stupidly I was worried she'd think that that was who I was, so I panicked and didn't tell her immediately. I acknowledge that she should have known, before we were ever together, but she found out afterwards. Understandably she is having difficulties forgetting about my past, despite the fact that we love each other. When we are together, it is very difficult for her to forget that I have had an experience with someone else. We are desperate to not let this break us up permanently, but we are stuck and unaware of how to move forward. I know it's very easy to say 'Tell her to just ignore it, because you love her now' but we're desperate for something that will stop this from hurting so much. I will do anything. I love her, I want to be with her and she wants to be with me, but I am desperate for the pain this is causing her to go. Thank you.
AvianChaos Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 "Judge me not for what I've done, but what I'll do" I always thought this was a nice quote. She is intimidated by you, you've been through something that is so foreign to her that it's frightening and she doesn't know how to handle it. This issue actually has very little to do with you, and a lot to do with her and how she perceives the world. That being said, the best you can do is repeat that quote I posted and hope it makes an impact. I certainly believe you care about this girl and don't want to pressure her into anything she wouldn't want to do; all you have to do is be good to her. Hope everything turns out well.
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