Buttercup84 Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 When my ex and I met he was so keen on me , came on a bit too strong . I liked him but wanted to get to know him first as I never had a serious boyfriend before . I was emailing a guy I met on a forum , just about politics and books etc . Boring stuff . We flirted a bit here and there . I was still messaging him two weeks or so after my ex and I met . Being flirty etc . Nothing sexual , but mostly just talking about our interests etc . But then I realized I was in love with my ex and hardly messages the other guy , and we just kept it to friendly convo . He knew about my ex , my ex and I said we are girlfriend and boyfriend after about three weeks together , after a month I said I love you . He said it back . I just feel so guilty after re reading those emails after our break up . I feel like it was my karma , be side my ex became a bit emotionally abusive about half a year . I never cheated or even flirted with anyone else . I only had eyes for him and we were engaged briefly too. I would have been happy just to have him for the rest of my life . I just feel so horrible feeling that I cheated on him .
TheDovic Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 You didn't cheat on him, but speaking to other guys isn't the best idea!!! Does your ex know how you're feeling now? Tell him, he may want nothing more than to hear this from you!
Author Buttercup84 Posted September 16, 2011 Author Posted September 16, 2011 You didn't cheat on him, but speaking to other guys isn't the best idea!!! Does your ex know how you're feeling now? Tell him, he may want nothing more than to hear this from you! Yeah I know it wasn't good . I guess I was just scared of my ex liking me so much , as weird as it sounds . My ex does not know about the guy , but I found out that my ex possibly had his dating profile on stand by while we were together for two years . We have been broken up three months now and he will never come back thanks for your reply x
Mack05 Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 When my ex and I met he was so keen on me , came on a bit too strong . I liked him but wanted to get to know him first as I never had a serious boyfriend before . I was emailing a guy I met on a forum , just about politics and books etc . Boring stuff . We flirted a bit here and there . I was still messaging him two weeks or so after my ex and I met . Being flirty etc . Nothing sexual , but mostly just talking about our interests etc . But then I realized I was in love with my ex and hardly messages the other guy , and we just kept it to friendly convo . He knew about my ex , my ex and I said we are girlfriend and boyfriend after about three weeks together , after a month I said I love you . He said it back . I just feel so guilty after re reading those emails after our break up . I feel like it was my karma , be side my ex became a bit emotionally abusive about half a year . I never cheated or even flirted with anyone else . I only had eyes for him and we were engaged briefly too. I would have been happy just to have him for the rest of my life . I just feel so horrible feeling that I cheated on him . Buttercup you are not thinking clearly. Your thought process is all over the place. Your boyfriend is a dickwad, because he is a dickwad. That was never going to change no matter what happened. You did nothing wrong. Harmless flirting when you are not in a relationship is not cheating. If you take one thing from this forum let it be this line... YOU HAVE TO STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP!!!!!!!!!!!!
Author Buttercup84 Posted September 16, 2011 Author Posted September 16, 2011 Thanks that made me smile . I think I need you to become my life coach !
ConfusedT Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 i like the dickwad comment. yes, you didnt deserve what was done to you regardless of your actions. sure they werent the best, but people make bad choices, but you didn't cheat. you can have friends that are males...
M2155 Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 You just said you emailed a guy for two weeks and you were not official with your ex. That's HARDLY cheating. You are cheating more with us here than you were there...lol. Quit thinking about that! What you did then wouldn't have changed a thing in how it ended.
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