mrgoodcat Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 So, I got a tentative "no" from this girl on Monday who works at the local place I go to. She shows through body language that she likes me and I know she may have a young boyfriend/applicant(younger than me, around her age, probably). She told me that she hardly sees me and I have been showing up and talking to her every day since then. She looks like she's lights up when we talk, but that's irrelevant to my mission. What's important, is I don't think I want to court her through "let's be friends" route for weeks on and on and just tell her I care about her and want to ask her out again. This is my way out to be sure I don't waste time if I'm not reading her body language correctly and she's just a flirtatious young Latina who likes to practice on men. What do you people think? I know if I get a second no, regardless how "unsure" it may sound, that will make it affirmative that I need to move the on from her. I have to be a boss like that--my time and emotions are too valuable to be spent on this lingering crap.
Author mrgoodcat Posted September 16, 2011 Author Posted September 16, 2011 (edited) It was a hesitant no. Almost a playful "no" as if to see what I'll do. She "almost" gave me her number and gave me a hug in the end (ughhh, I didn't care for her ****ing hug at that moment, tbh). And I have been intentionally cold to her. Why push it? So, I'm not wondering and I can move the hell on. It's like breaking a mental focus for me. I need hard rejections, and if she can't give that, than I need a double one. You know? Edited September 16, 2011 by mrgoodcat
coolheadal Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 It was a hesitant no. Almost a playful "no" as if to see what I'll do. I have been intentionally cold to her. Why push it? So, I'm not wondering and I can move the hell on. It's like breaking a mental focus for me. I need hard rejections, and if she can't give that, than I need a double one. You know? Are you the same guy going after the bank teller or bank account rep at your bank? Have you talked to her about going out? I got to give you credit for trying to get a date with this girl. Most that work in a place of business always will smile at you but more like terms of endearment.
Author mrgoodcat Posted September 16, 2011 Author Posted September 16, 2011 (edited) It's a supermarket, but same concept. Well, yeah, I've asked her about going out so as to get to know each other better. Frankly, I don't care if I fail the second time around either, cause I'm really winning as I get to save time on empty chases. I don't want to go through a weekend weekend with her on my mind. The sooner I ask, the sooner I'm winning. *insert charliesheenwinning.gif* Edited September 16, 2011 by mrgoodcat
Cracker Jack Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 When's the next time you plan on seeing her in the supermarket? How have you been intentionally cold to her? It does sound like there's a chance for you here.
coolheadal Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 It's a supermarket, but same concept. Well, yeah, I've asked her about going out so as to get to know each other better. Frankly, I don't care if I fail the second time around either, cause I'm really winning as I get to save time on empty chases. I don't want to go through a weekend weekend with her on my mind. The sooner I ask, the sooner I'm winning. *insert charliesheenwinning.gif* What is she the cashier at the Supermarket? I did that once what your doing. When I finally got the nerve to ask her, then he appeared. Her Boy Friend kissing her. Funny she would always smile at me say what's up? Well why don't you ask her? Are you and your boyfriend going out this weekend. Say it like that. That's the only way you know if she has someone. If she tells you she doesn't have one then move in for your slot. If their are people on the line go back into the store and buy $50 dollars worth of cans of soup or something she needs to count slowly. Get 50 cans of something.
Author mrgoodcat Posted September 16, 2011 Author Posted September 16, 2011 Today. I've spoken to her outside work and then didn't show up regularly or avoided her in a store....like go to a different checkout posts or if manager ever put her in to organizing inventory, I'd circumnavigate her isle. It was kinda dickish, but I think I showed her I care for her. I think I have a 50/50 shot, and I'm more than happy to take it. Even if it was 10/90 shot, I'd still hail marry it. I know I'd done my best and can throw her out of my mind.
Author mrgoodcat Posted September 16, 2011 Author Posted September 16, 2011 (edited) What is she the cashier at the Supermarket? I did that once what your doing. When I finally got the nerve to ask her, then he appeared. Her Boy Friend kissing her. Funny she would always smile at me say what's up? Well why don't you ask her? Are you and your boyfriend going out this weekend. Say it like that. That's the only way you know if she has someone. If she tells you she doesn't have one then move in for your slot. If their are people on the line go back into the store and buy $50 dollars worth of cans of soup or something she needs to count slowly. Get 50 cans of something. That's some good out of the box thinking. I like that. I'll have to show up closer to the end of the day around 9 because there are fewer customers and they have some dushbag bagging groceries, so there is no privacy of conversation during the mid-day. And yes, I would have phrased it like you suggested, but I'm certain she has a guy. Well....I would like to completely omit any reference of her BF out of the conversation, so it's only about me and her and her answer will pretty much tell me if she has a BF taking her out this weekend. I really can't lose. It's a win/win for me. I made similar comment to someone's thread where they were uncertain if a girl is going to go out with them- well, I'm in that position now. Irony. Edited September 16, 2011 by mrgoodcat
Author mrgoodcat Posted September 16, 2011 Author Posted September 16, 2011 Well, I wish you good luck. Appreciate that. Luck no luck, I'm better off after Friday night, even if I'll be feeling blue.
coolheadal Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 Good luck! Just be yourself and make sure you don't have that bag boy around either.
Author mrgoodcat Posted September 16, 2011 Author Posted September 16, 2011 Yep. Will do. Pretty sure she'll be doing inventory/stocking after 9pm, so I'll be good. If not, I'll just buy a year supply of toothpaste and have her check that out for half an hour.
coolheadal Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 Yep. Will do. Pretty sure she'll be doing inventory/stocking after 9pm, so I'll be good. If not, I'll just buy a year supply of toothpaste and have her check that out for half an hour. Good you're learning how to work the system. I hope it works out for you. Remember your not alone everyone here and me is behind you 100%! Don't forget to lets know how it works out too!
Author mrgoodcat Posted September 16, 2011 Author Posted September 16, 2011 Don't forget to lets know how it works out too! Most certainly. I'll bump today or tomorrow.
Author mrgoodcat Posted September 17, 2011 Author Posted September 17, 2011 BUMP as I promised. I did exactly what coolheadal said and bought 30 some yogurts and bunch of other non-perishable ****. She seemed playful and excited. Started talking and I ask, Me: "So, do you have anything planed this weekend?" She: "Yes, I'm going to the beach party"....... Me: "Oh, ok" (I couldn't even say "that sounds fun") Me: "Um, are you going alone?" She: "He's gonna be there" Me to myself: "****, I just bought 30 yogurts for ****ing nothing". I got out of the store feeling like I missed a game winning shot and felt so mad. What sucks even worse is that chicks that work in the store have been giving me this funny looks, as this ****ing flirt have told them that I'm hitting after her. Can't ****ing believe this. I felt like I stooped below myself for some silly little bitch. U MAD? Yeah, I'm very ****ing mad. Feel like going Davey Jones on myself and cutting out that part of me that bothers to go after chicks. **** is hardly worth it. I hope someone learns from this thread. She says she has a boyfriend and "NO" to you, tell her to **** herself and not give playful looks to strangers then. F*cking whore****. Yeah, this DOES NOT feel like winning right now. This is not winning. Maybe I'll laugh at this thread in a few days, but I have my doubts.
Author mrgoodcat Posted September 17, 2011 Author Posted September 17, 2011 That ****ing flirt her. Man, ughhhh. Can't ****ing believe I didn't really even like her, just went for her cause she seemed easily attainable, then learned she wasn't, then got infatuated, then got over her, then failed the second time. ****ing whore ****. Uggghh. LOL **** **** **** . Ughhh. Man, I should go clubbing, just too bad I don't do that nor have any cool wingmen. God forbid run into another one of such clown shoes chicks in there. Bluuuugh.
Author mrgoodcat Posted September 17, 2011 Author Posted September 17, 2011 I need to get back on the winning side and back on it QUICKLY. Winning here winning there, winning every moment. Can't believe this sh*t. I knew this would happen, but still I'm feeling more sore than I forecasted. I curse my ****ing parents for making me. This type of frustrations aren't ****ing worth it.
Author mrgoodcat Posted September 17, 2011 Author Posted September 17, 2011 On the good side, I really AM OVER HER. I am upset to sh*t, but I won't ****ing talk to her ever ****ing again. Not if she crawls on all four. Feel disgusted.
coolheadal Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 That's bad that happen it's like when I had found about the chick that was always smiling at the supermarket. That's why you need to find out what they doing and who they're going with before you get into them.
OnyxSnowfall Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 you need to calm down. you're not even coping in a healthy way. then you're also taking it out on other posters here... (learn how to ****?) you should really work on changing your reactions, or at least venting in a way that's more private and less selfish. I've had several men "blow up" and insult me when I've rejected them (even freaking strangers on the street)... it's really tactless and all I can think is that these boys have issues that they should be tending to RATHER than trying to get involved with someone (even if it's for just a fling!) She is likely NOT all these things you are calling her. You're putting her down to sooth your ego and it's not good. ... really.
Cracker Jack Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 Sorry, man. Anyway, at least you got it out of the way. Time to shift your focus on the next woman. Keep fighting the good fight.
coolheadal Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 You know you can return what you purchase to the store Customer Service desk tell them you don't need this stuff anymore.. You need to listen and relax this stuff happens to all us here. There be other women out there for you. Just relax..
OnyxSnowfall Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 Sorry, man. Anyway, at least you got it out of the way. Time to shift your focus on the next woman. Keep fighting the good fight. really? a guy that calls a girl a ****ing whore because she WON'T cheat or break up with her guy to be with him, should keep fighting the good fight by going onto another woman? (not to mention all the other things) Ugh... I hope he's more together IRL then...
Author mrgoodcat Posted September 17, 2011 Author Posted September 17, 2011 That's bad that happen it's like when I had found about the chick that was always smiling at the supermarket. That's why you need to find out what they doing and who they're going with before you get into them. Appreciate that man. Sorry, man. Anyway, at least you got it out of the way. Time to shift your focus on the next woman. Keep fighting the good fight. Thanks, we'll see. I should be going after real women anyways. You know you can return what you purchase to the store Customer Service desk tell them you don't need this stuff anymore.. You need to listen and relax this stuff happens to all us here. There be other women out there for you. Just relax.. No worries, I'll eat that yogurt in a week. It was only 30 some yogurts. Hehe. you need to calm down. you're not even coping in a healthy way. then you're also taking it out on other posters here... (learn how to ****?) you should really work on changing your reactions, or at least venting in a way that's more private and less selfish. I've had several men "blow up" and insult me when I've rejected them (even freaking strangers on the street)... it's really tactless and all I can think is that these boys have issues that they should be tending to RATHER than trying to get involved with someone (even if it's for just a fling!) She is likely NOT all these things you are calling her. You're putting her down to sooth your ego and it's not good. ... really. F*cking bite me.
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