Mixed28 Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 Do you think it is needed for experience and what not. I think it is kind of eye opening to go through heartbreak. What do you think?
Trolly Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 I've seen couples who have only ever been with each other (rare, I know), and seem perfectly happy. I know that breakups have taught me great lessons. I've also seen people who didn't learn a single thing from their failed relationships. I wish I had a definitive answer, but I think it's individualistic.
wilsonx Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 did you learn anything for all the pain you went through? if so, is that pain worth going through again for repeating the same thing?
M2155 Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 Some people learn the hard way, so yes. Everyone doesn't need to learn all the same lessons. I have learned a lot and I have to belive that we experience the pain for one of two reasons: 1.) Because we ignored the "little voice" that said "I deserve better than this" or defended the red flags we didn't want to see 2.) To prepare us for someone better that is in our future Those that don't learn whatever lesson the universe was trying to teach them about themselves will probably end up getting hurt again one way or another. And if someone great is in my future, glad I messed up on the other guy.
ConfusedT Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 i think for the people who didnt end up in in amazing relationship, yes it is a necessary evil. it teaches us about ourselves, it teaches us about our standards, it shows us what red flags are, what we want, what we dont and most importantly, and in all hopes, it shows us what that we should never settle for someone that doesnt give us what a relationship really needs, whatever that may be to you... this traumatic experience has shown me a lot over the past few months. i think it has let me finally start to be comfortable with just being me...
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