loopiegrata Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 Before I go ahead with the story...just want to warn you that I am the villain here. And I hate that fact. I want to change and be a good person. But anyway, here's my story... And it's totally retarded... I am 23 and I have been with this guy for a few years now. We are supposed to get married in June next year. He is this gorgeous, nerdy, loyal-to-a-fault kinda guy... and loves me like crazy. But he is not romantic and it's frustrating. I thought I loved him, but now I am sure anymore. The reason for this conclusion is I cheated on him, on multiple occasions. If I loved him I wouldn't have done such a thing. He can take good care of me and make sure we have a good life, but I think he won't be able to satisfy even my simplest emotional need... At this point, I am secretly in touch with a married guy, who is on the verge of getting a divorce. And his wife is with another guy. I was trying to support this guy in his difficult marriage. Now we're more than just friends. He does crazy romantic things for me. It's almost unreal. But if I choose to be with him it will mean lots of sacrifice. And he doesn't demand anything from me. He said that he wanted to move in with me and get married to me...but only if I wanted it. (And btw, he is not the typical married cheating husband trying to fool around with girls, feeding them sad stories. I know that cuz I am friends with his wife. So it's all real.) I am screwed. I don't know what to do.
Hurting123 Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 The Problem here is that you are only thinking about yourself. You have a guy who would do anything for you. And you are cheating on him. And the only thing you have to say is that your not in love with him. And your excuse is that he is not romantic. This may be true and this might be partly his fault but what about him?? Have you thought about this? Have you thought about him at all? What have you done for him??? It's not all about you and how you feel. You need to work out how your going to tell your man the truth. You need to end it with him first. This is not a question of whether you are going to leave your man for another? Your current man needs to know the truth first. Once you have that sorted you can think about what you want to do with the rest of your life. You want to be with this other married man? Fine. But it is very likely he will find someone else to romance eventually. Romancing seems to be his thing. But romancing of that magnitude will not last forever with you. So what are you going to do then? When the romance cools down. When the honeymooning is over. Have you thought about the future or is this all just about instant gratification for you. First thing is first. Turn this around and save your fiancée from total devastation. You owe him this. If you care about anyone but yourself. You will come clean. You are going to damage him for a very long time. So do what you can as of tomorrow to make this as right as possible.
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