Troubles Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 So me and my girlfriend broke up about a week and a half ago, and have spoken to eachother maybe twice about the situation we both are still deeply in love with eachother so we cannot remain friends and we both know that, i do think she is in a rebound relationship already which bothers me but I am not getting into that. My question is, I generally have a blog which she checks daily about 9-10times a day, I don't blog anything bad or hatefull about our relationship, just my day..how im feeling those sorts. Should I stop writing on it so she doesn't know what's up with me? Or do I continue? I think this is her way of still knowing what im up too without actually talknig to me and i find that, by doing that it probabyl helps her fill the void of me not being there while i am here not knowing anything going on with her.
coltsfan1 Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 i would stop for a week and see how that goes. How do you know she checks it that much? through login times or IP address?
Author Troubles Posted September 16, 2011 Author Posted September 16, 2011 i would stop for a week and see how that goes. How do you know she checks it that much? through login times or IP address? Through the log-in times, it shows me and well it's always the same one person on their blackberry. I wont blog for the week, would this make her curious? or "out of mind, out of sight"?
coltsfan1 Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 I wont blog for the week, would this make her curious? or "out of mind, out of sight"? The reason you don't blog for a week is to find the answer to this question.... DO NOT tell her or blog about stopping just STOP. You could be to "busy" to blog what with all the freedom and fun you are having with your new free time. Get my drift?
Author Troubles Posted September 16, 2011 Author Posted September 16, 2011 The reason you don't blog for a week is to find the answer to this question.... DO NOT tell her or blog about stopping just STOP. You could be to "busy" to blog what with all the freedom and fun you are having with your new free time. Get my drift? I catch your drift, but she probably knows im not going to be busy having fun with my free time. Here's my story, it explains. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t297653/
coltsfan1 Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 (edited) I remember reading the post about your breakup, if you want me to tell you the truth I will. Your first and foremost task ahead is your bout with cancer, you need to do everything in your human capabilities to have a VICTORY in this fight. Everything and everyone else HAS to be put on the back burner and pushed to the side. You HAVE to do this because if you aren't around in a year what really does your ex matter then!!!! I lost my best friend at 22 from lupus, it totally changed my life in a good way. But I would give every fun moment, experience, and adventure since his passing to sit and have a beer with him. That was in 2003 two days before my birthday, and I still don't like having a birthday party to this day. I bet you have a friend like that as well, don't let your family and him down by not giving your all to this battle. You can find a way to potentially get her back after you are cleared of the cancer. She means NOTHING compared to your own health!!! Once you have 100 posts you can PM, I think... There is more to the story about my friend that would take up to much to type but I would talk with you about it more through there if you would like. Or your situation with your ex. Edited September 16, 2011 by coltsfan1
Thieves Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 To be honest, I think you should either: A) Stop blogging, or... B) Create a new private blog under a name she doesn't know about if you really feel compelled to keep doing it. I do think you're right about your blog being a way to somehow fill the void, even if she doesn't really talk to you or see you. If you were able to read up on her too, it'd probably be more even, but you didn't mention anything about that so I'm not sure. But yes, if it were me, I'd stop blogging and create a new private blog for just myself so I can still journey the whole process and heal without worrying if an 'ex' is seeing it or thinking about what I'm writing.
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