mo mo Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 Whether it's an acquaintance, an old flame, an ex, or a one-night stand you'd rather forget about, there is plenty of evidence to support that taking someone off your friends list on facebook will permanently damage the relationship between you two. Be careful with the de-friend button folks. Facebook = serious business.
Professor X Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 De-friend-ing someone on facebook permanently damages relationships Hai der Captain Obvious.
Tony T Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 Whether it's an acquaintance, an old flame, an ex, or a one-night stand you'd rather forget about, there is plenty of evidence to support that taking someone off your friends list on facebook will permanently damage the relationship between you two. Be careful with the de-friend button folks. Facebook = serious business. Equally as damaging is not accepting a friendship request from someone who believes they are good friends with you or that you like them...a lot more than you really do. I even see situations where relatives split from each other...over Facebook friendship rejections. I think human beings can be pretty sick!
madjac74 Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 Whether it's an acquaintance, an old flame, an ex, or a one-night stand you'd rather forget about, there is plenty of evidence to support that taking someone off your friends list on facebook will permanently damage the relationship between you two. Be careful with the de-friend button folks. Facebook = serious business. So why would you take them off if you cared about your relationship with them? Assuming Facebook is that important a part of your lives, I would guess if you could delete them then they must be pretty insignificant to you.
rafallus Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 Actually, as far as I remember, FB doesn't send notifications that they have been unfriended. In that, for them to notice, they would have to be massive FB whores, constantly checking, how many friends they have. Or have no other channel to communicate with and find themselves in need of talking to you. Or maybe something changed?
madjac74 Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 Actually, as far as I remember, FB doesn't send notifications that they have been unfriended. In that, for them to notice, they would have to be massive FB whores, constantly checking, how many friends they have. Or have no other channel to communicate with and find themselves in need of talking to you. Or maybe something changed? I have so few friends on facebook that it is sometimes easy to notice when one is missing. Of course my core group of people that I care about is even smaller than that but today in fact I noticed I was down to 108 when I know it had been 110 a week or so earlier. It irritated me slightly but I was over it in seconds. I know one was a girl who liked me and we had hungout several times and she is really cool but I made it clear I just wanted to be friends.
Citizen Erased Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 I know my mother won't forgive me for deleting her. Sweet, sweet silence.
The Outlaw Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 I can see how it would permantely affect your relationship. It violates trust. 'Unfriending' or 'defriending' is more of an insult to me anyway than anything else.
grkBoy Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 Whether it's an acquaintance, an old flame, an ex, or a one-night stand you'd rather forget about, there is plenty of evidence to support that taking someone off your friends list on facebook will permanently damage the relationship between you two. Be careful with the de-friend button folks. Facebook = serious business. This is no surprise.
Beachgirl8 Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 Sometimes people defriend an ex for their own sanity, so they won't have that persons name in their face every time they log onto Facebook. I think that's a good thing. If, after time, the situation changes you can always friend request that person again. A little juvenile and embarrassing? Yes, but a lot less damage done than the torture of having the option to "Facebook stalk" someone you are actively trying to get off of your brain.
Finch Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 If both parties interpret facebook as the ultimate way to interact and keep in touch, then yes, de-friending someone will be seen as the highest insult because the "de-friending" is being done with intent and has an underlying symbolic meaning that is equal for both parties. If, however, one party is more mature than the other and uses facebook in a different way, then the de-friended party needs to take that into consideration. If all you do on facebook is post Farmville updates or photographs of yourself, IMHO you have no reason to be irked when a colleague (or anyone else for that matter) de-friends you. But then again, people who use facebook as the main tool for evaluating the health and strength of real-world relationships might not be mature enough to think it through that way.
Calutaxi484 Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 I think facebook for the most part brings out some of the biggest retardation of the human race. In some cases it just takes the drama llama from real life and puts it on the computer.
motive2002 Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 I know my mother won't forgive me for deleting her. Sweet, sweet silence. ROFL When I de-friend someone I have no intention of speaking to that person anymore. It's for a very good reason, so the damage it does has already been taken into consideration.
oaks Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 I de-friended someone today on the basis that I couldn't remember what he looked like. I doubt that he'll even notice.
irc333 Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 I had someone De-friend me due to some misunderstanding when she posted some status on her FB account. I thought she was making a joke about her situation and I played along. She actually repsponded back joking, then apparently I said something that set her off, told me to go to hell and not only unfriended me, and blocked me I was like WTF? I tried to email her back, saying I thought we were just joking, that I didn't mean anything by it.
somedude81 Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 Odds are if somebody has a lot of Facebook friends or doesn't use FB that often or you haven't interacted in FB that much; they won't know you de-friended them.
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