Heatemyheart89 Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 Title says it all really been in off contact with ex for 2 years (yes 2 years eek)he's always found a way to contact me I've always gone with it .Recently he got in contact asking if I was okay and then saying how he'd love to be friends with benefits and basically he misses the sex. I feel sick that the person I've pines for and missed isn't interested at all in me just my body!I feel so angry at myself !
radiodarcy Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 you're situation sounds just like mine. i was friend with benefits - - off and on for 2.5 years. he refused to refer to it as stuff. it was simply a "situation". it was without a doubt the worst 2.5 years of my life. because i still had feelings for him. and it really really REALLY hurt to know that he didn't feel the same and was essentially using me. i let him treat me that way because i kept thinking he would see how much i loved him was was willing to be there for him physical and emotionally (we were till friends as well). of course, that never happened and he would up cutting off the benefits. the friendship pretty much died after that. but yeah - - i would say no if he came back and asked me to a a FWB again. i will not putmyself through that pain for anyone. ever.
Thieves Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 Title says it all really been in off contact with ex for 2 years (yes 2 years eek)he's always found a way to contact me I've always gone with it .Recently he got in contact asking if I was okay and then saying how he'd love to be friends with benefits and basically he misses the sex. I feel sick that the person I've pines for and missed isn't interested at all in me just my body!I feel so angry at myself ! If you feel sick, why are you even considering it? Do you like torturing yourself? Do you like the general aftertaste of the pain you'll most likely feel after each time you have sex with this guy - only for him to brush it off like it's nothing the next day because it's "just sex"? Don't do this to yourself. Please. Listen to radiodarcy. It's been 2 years, and instead of talking about getting back with you for real, the first thing he mentions is sex? The guy's basically asking you to be his sex ragdoll. You have to know you're worth more than that. Any self-respecting woman is...
othersideofthepillow Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 This situation has DISASTER written ALLLLLLLLLL over it!!!. My ex asked if we could have sex together, and about how much she missed being intimate with me. I reminded her that although i would love to (the sex was always great) that we were no longer together and that i cannot do that. there were a few moments of intimacy after the break up but NO sex. things got weird for me right after that and i didnt even have sex with her. i felt SO disappointed in myself - yes i still LOVED her but i knew that she had broken my heart and that came full spectrum - it cut through me like a knife. FWB NEVER works with a EX. one of the two is ALWAYS wanting more - when they dont get it in the end, and the other drops them like they are nothing more than a piece of meat (which is what you have become really) - it puts you right back where you started at the beginning of the break up feeling even worse than before cause you had a "better hope - we are intimate together" feeling. NOW NOTHING!!!! UNLESS YOU HAVE 0 FEELINGS LEFT FOR HIM ------- STAY AWAY FROM FWB!!!!
coltsfan1 Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 the simple answer to his offer is NO. If its so good he has to stay to get it!!!
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