peterstreet Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 My ex broke up with me almost 3 weeks ago. Initially i did the usual - get angry, then beg to which she came around and said she still loved me and we could be friends etc. I went NC 3 days after breaking up and have been that way since. I always thought she still might come knocking again (although i'd have seriously had to think about the outcome). I've just heard through a mutual friend that her facebook statuses have been updated like crazy all of a sudden and that shes got a new fella. So much for a year together! Im not surprised, but it still hurts, hurts like hell. I want to send her a 'slag' text but i know i shouldn't. So to all those out there, just cut them off and forget them as soon as you can or you'll just hurt and hurt forevever.
dangerbang Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 My ex broke up with me almost 3 weeks ago. Initially i did the usual - get angry, then beg to which she came around and said she still loved me and we could be friends etc. I went NC 3 days after breaking up and have been that way since. I always thought she still might come knocking again (although i'd have seriously had to think about the outcome). I've just heard through a mutual friend that her facebook statuses have been updated like crazy all of a sudden and that shes got a new fella. So much for a year together! Im not surprised, but it still hurts, hurts like hell. I want to send her a 'slag' text but i know i shouldn't. So to all those out there, just cut them off and forget them as soon as you can or you'll just hurt and hurt forevever. True that brother! There's more to life than relationships anyway
Fleabitten Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 I find it incredible that some people can just go straight into a new relationship after one ending. No time to reflect and learn from their own part in why the relationship didn't work. I don't understand how people can sleep with someone that soon after either. Well, you will come out of this stronger and wiser, she will have learnt nothing at all. This isn't going to feel like much comfort now though, you must be hurting so much. All my sympathy. x
Fleabitten Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 This is a major flaw that you and many of the posters / dumpees on here have. I don't understand? Why is it wrong to think it weird to jump straight into a new relationship without any time to reflect on what happened in the old one and how the breakup affected you and try and learn something from it?
Fleabitten Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 Oh I see. Hell yes, avoid like the plague... My ex, with whom the relationship finally ended only mere days ago, always looked at the people who relationship jump in contempt - and only today my friend found his profile on a dating website... I don't know whether to laugh or to cry (yes I do actually, I will cry. More.)
wilsonx Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 people that talk all time about cheating, how much they hate it, hiw dumb it is, etc. Are usually cheaters. The same "principle" applies to a majority of things. For example, your ex who went on and on about relationship jumpers and ended up being one. quoted for the mother ****ing truth!!!!!
Hurting123 Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 quoted for the mother ****ing truth!!!!! That might make sense... But I always go on about how I hate cheating and I've never cheated. Also some people also might say this because they have been cheated on.. And that's why they show so much emotion about it. Also met people who are quite vocal about it because their parents split apart because of it and they know the pain it causes. I'd be hesitant to see this type of behavior as a red flag. Red flag: have you cheated before? Answer: yes Me: goodbye That is a red flag
Fleabitten Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 I'm not sure how old you are but let me share something with you that might help you going forward... People that talk all time about cheating, how much they hate it, hiw dumb it is, etc. are usually cheaters. The same "principle" applies to a majority of things. For example, your Ex who went on and on about relationship jumpers and ended up being Im plenty old but that aside, i'll have to disagree on this. I think it's entirely possible to be against a certain type of destructive behaviour without it being a way of overcompensating for that behaviour in oneself. But yes, I'm sure it can happen.
Damia Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 I find it incredible that some people can just go straight into a new relationship after one ending. No time to reflect and learn from their own part in why the relationship didn't work. I don't understand how people can sleep with someone that soon after either. x I think perhaps that dumpers are 10 steps a head mentally and emotionally of the unfortunate person they have dumped because most of them have thought about and planned their affair/Rbreakup for a while before they act. They also have the advantage that they made the decision to end things on their terms,when for the dumpee it can be a bolt out of the blue. I do agree that they maybe don't learn the hard lessons those of us that have been dumped reflect on. With that said should I put a tick on my side for a better future than my xH?
A7X Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 Over here she is seeing someone else a week after our breakup. Worse part is that it's someone that she would chat with from time to time by text and that he's been after her for years. So feel like I was just a fall back guy incase it didn't work out with this guy when I was trying to win her back and spending time with her for about 1 month's time. Good part about this, I defenitly don't want to be with someone with these morals and values. Reading homebrew's post, I did ignore red flags during the relationship, but I was in love...
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