blahblahr Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 have you ever loved someone so much when you're with them, but when you're away you just feel alone? You just feel like you have nothing? I'm in a long distance relationship right now... we live on the opposite sides of the country... We broke up before i moved, so i decided to move away to clear my mind of everything and start fresh. We ended up getting back together, but by the time it happened it was too late for me to back out of moving. i only get to see him once a year :[ When i'm with him I love him so much, but when we're apart i just don't feel anything anymore. i know i love him, but its so hard to be away. We don't really talk a lot and when we do hes always short with me. I always tell him how i feel about our relationship and he just fall asleep. I feel like we don't have time for each other. I love him, but i feel alone still!
LittleTiger Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 I'm sorry you're finding things so difficult blahblahr. LDRs aren't easy at the best of times. When you say you only get to see him once a year, how many years have you been living like this? I'm sure, when you're with your bf, you feel that you love him, but if those feelings aren't deep inside you and don't go with you when you're apart, it doesn't sound as though it's love. I would guess that it's more of an infatuation and a case of 'out of sight, out of mind' - possibly for both of you. Are you sure that he loves you? Falling asleep when you're talking to him about your relationship is not a good sign. I'm not at all surprised you feel so lonely and alone when you have such a limited physical and emotional connection with your bf. If you never see him and when you talk he is short with you, what exactly are you getting out of the 'relationship' that is positive? My best suggestion would be to focus on life where you are. Find some new friends and learn to enjoy yourself without him.
Author blahblahr Posted September 15, 2011 Author Posted September 15, 2011 Thanks for your advice littletiger. I've been dating him for 3 years. when i lived in the same state as him i would leave for 3 months in the summer. then i decided to move away....we've haven't seen each other since june.. I don't know when the next time ill be able to see him. We're both really busy with our own lives, but we do want to be together. he asked me to move back and move in with him, but i can't do that. I THINK he does love me, but i just don't know. I'm really close with him family and they think we're "soul mates." I don't know what i think anymore. being far away is actually making me think about our relationship in a different way... He told me hes going to propose soon, but i don't think its right. I want him to prove to me that he cares for me as much as i do, but i don't know how he could do that
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