SJC2008 Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 I'm almost 30 and moving back home. No I won't be sharing a room with my little brother lol!. It will only be me and my mother and yes I will helping out with the bills. I really don't mind and am actually kind of glad and am thinking of staying home until I get My degree next school year. When I did live at home I really never had any privacy issues as my mother and I have opposite schedules. At my age I'm sure this will be hard for a woman to look past, But I work and go to college and only have 12 classes till my degree so it's not like I'm not headed anywhere in life. When I meet another women how/when would I drop this on her? Are there any that would look past this?
Keridan Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 There are many out there who would look past it. In fact, one that wouldn't is probably not worth your concern. It would be different if you were a lazy slob who wasn't doing school and couldn't quit playing games long enough to find a real job. In my experience, women tend to be much better at looking past the current situation than men. I wouldn't throw it out first thing, but don't make an effort to hide it, either. Wait till it comes up and explain why in a few words when it does
allina Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 I'm almost 30 and moving back home. No I won't be sharing a room with my little brother lol!. It will only be me and my mother and yes I will helping out with the bills. I really don't mind and am actually kind of glad and am thinking of staying home until I get My degree next school year. When I did live at home I really never had any privacy issues as my mother and I have opposite schedules. At my age I'm sure this will be hard for a woman to look past, But I work and go to college and only have 12 classes till my degree so it's not like I'm not headed anywhere in life. When I meet another women how/when would I drop this on her? Are there any that would look past this? I would look past it assuming it's a real degree you're working on, the job is something reasonable for a 30 year old and you have good career goals. Also, I would be a little curious why you are just now getting a degree. What have you been up to the last 8 years?
omkara Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 Hey man, in this economy, if they can't look past something like that, they can go straight to hell.
Eddie Edirol Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 Realistically, the only ones who would look past it are woman who live with roommates or their parents.
duckrepair Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 Realistically, the only ones who would look past it are woman who live with roommates or their parents. And much younger ones... Depends on the type of degree. And your job....
delilah123 Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 Got to agree with the above posters. I am 21 have finished my degree, own a car, live alone (although did house share for the past year until recently) and have a full time job in my area of choice. My current boyfriend is my age so I'm fine with the fact he is at his parents and he finishes his degree at the end of the year. He has a job etc BUT a guy 25+ who was still finishing a degree and had gone back home? No thanks. Wed be a **** match as he obviously doesn't have as much drive and independence as I do.
Author SJC2008 Posted September 15, 2011 Author Posted September 15, 2011 My degree will be in economics. The reason I don't have a degree yet is because I went when I wasn't ready and stopped going and went back and never took a full load because I always worked and went to school. But I can see the light at the end of the tunnel thank God. Thats what I'm insecure about. I think a woman will think "why the hell is he still in college". But there are people older than me in college too so why should it matter? It's not like only people with degrees date ya know?
grkBoy Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 I was a boomeranger in my past. Unfortunately too many women didn't look past it. They didn't care that it was the post dotcom recession and I was working on a Masters, working full-time in a good job, and saving up a down payment on real estate. They simply looked at me as a big red flag because they felt a man in his 30s should already be established, not "working on it". I had one female friend be blunt with me and simply say that I'm average looking, living at home, and "working on it". In her eyes she said it's hard for a woman to fathom a guy like that when there are plenty of men out there living in condos, making great money, established, and some are better looking. Now we can all ridicule this woman for being shallow, but my experiences did show that she was partially right. What really blew my mind were women who saw me as a failure when those very women could not afford to live on their own...they simply move in with whatever boyfriend they find. In today's economy though, I'd like to hope times changed...that boomerangers with plans and ambitions are not seen as a red flag. I hope this is the case now.
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