Anonymous1338 Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 I seem to get a small little crush on every interesting girl I talk to for more than 15min or so. But those only last for a day or two when I get over it, unless the few keep my attention, or I actually have a shot with them. Well, I started college this fall, and lo and behold, I think I might actually like a girl, but I think I actually like her more than the normal tiny ones I get. The thing is, I have a bad habit of somehow tipping them off that I like them, and for whatever reason (flattered or something) they show signs of liking me back, but I don't want it to be that way. I'd like her to like on her own. Now, my dilemma. I could have swore she showed signs of liking me back, but now I'm not sure. And on top of that she has this guy friend she is always with (lots of classes with) and in her dorm building, and for some reason it gets me so depressed whenever I see them together chatting like old pals (they met in college as well) and I can't even have a conversation of 5 minutes alone with her since we basically only see each other when our two small groups of friends do something over the weekend or I say Hi or whatever walking past her on campus. I feel so silly feeling so depressed about this, but it doesn't stop me from feeling this way. I chose to sit in a different section of my calculus lecture today, and just realized they were in my class, and had the (un)fortunate seat of watching them giggle the whole calc class. Ughh, it's so stupid but driving me crazy.... I don't what to do. Asking for a date or something might be weird if she doesn't feel the same way, but sitting around and worrying if she will fall for him drives me crazy as well. I'm such a mess.... And don't worry. I already know the part of calculus they are teaching. What to do, what to do...
Zaphod B Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 (edited) I can identify completely. I've always been like that and still am. I become a little obsessed. It's very hard to shake those feelings. And if you're like me, when you do find someone special, you fall in love very easy and then open yourself up to major heartbreak. It's a toughie and I'm not sure what to suggest, because of the fact I have the same problems. But nobody's replied to your thread yet, so I thought I'd jump in and let you know you're not alone One thing I discovered about myself... and it took me a long time to realise it... was that I have tunnel vision. When I met a girl I really liked I tended to focus on her and become blind to every other woman around me. I have missed out on so many potential friendships and relationships because of that. Be sure not to focus your attention just on this girl. Keep your eye out for others you can get to know too. Give yourself options and be sure not to miss out on the girls that fancy you. As for letting them know you like them. I think that's fine. You want them to know you like them. You just don't want to appear overly keen and you don't want to appear creepy. But I don't think you have to do much to let a girl know you fancy her. Oh and as for asking her out, don't worry about feeling weird. People ask people out all the time. You can always give it a shot. You can't worry about whether she'll reject you or not, you just have to do it. What have you got to lose? A fantasy being shattered if she says no? I don't know about you but fantasies kind of suck. I want to make them reality. But the only way you can make them reality is if you get out of that comfort zone and try to make it happen. You've gotta be in to win, right? Edited September 15, 2011 by Zaphod B
Author Anonymous1338 Posted September 15, 2011 Author Posted September 15, 2011 It's really nice to know I'm not alone. It's ironic because I find that girls tend to like me if I just don't think of them that way and just treat them as a casual friend, and those that I like before I thoroughly get to know them I usually act differently which doesn't help. I have to learn to relax and preoccupy myself..
Zaphod B Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 That makes sense. They say women are more attracted to you if you act like you don't care. I guess I can see why you don't want them to know you like them. So that you can appear to them as if you're casual and not that keen.
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