dizy Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 I decided to get over this guy. I just wanted to let everything out because I have been in denial with myself for days before making the moves and then yeah....it fails... this guy had a crush on me 2 month ago. We were on a sport team together. We never really talked and the only time that we were alone and talking I noticed the way how he looked at me and I got the message. However it was summer, and I am really the nerd type so I just study intensely during college and go crazy during summer. As a result, never really talked to him afterwards. At the last group diner, just before we left, he asked me if he will see me around in college (he thought that we go to the same one) and I said that I don't go there, he seemed really disappointed and hugged me. because of that hug, even though we were never really closed, I just got some feelings for him (don't ask why I DON'T KNOW). and I talked to him on facebook. He was really happy and gave me his number and asked me to text him when I get bored in class. But he ended the conversation with "i have to go, btw have fun talking with A" (A is one of his super close friend, a guy on the same sport team that I never really talked to either )which totally confused me, because I never mentioned anything about I was talking to his friend. He just told me that so I know that He KNOWS that I am talking to his friend. I interpreted that as a sign of frustration: He thought I was interested and then he realizes that I was also talking to his friend that I wasn't really close with. so probably I was just being friendly with everyone. For the next few times that we talked, each time that He mentions his friend, i make sure that he understands that I am not interested in his friend. and I texted him several times. Yesterday I had a really bad day, so I texted him abt that and he didn't reply. That was the moment that I realize that maybe he is not that interested. he replies and is super nice when I just mess around and text him random stuff, but each time that i talk abt my life or get a bit flirty, he stops replying. and he never contacted me by himself. I don't know if he is still a little bit interested, but I don't care anymore. He is obviously not willing to show me the interests that I deserve while I was doing all the texting and making sure that he understands that I was not interested in his friend. I am very disappointed and a bit hurt too. It is just so hard to get over this, because it started well.
thatone Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 (edited) I decided to get over this guy. I just wanted to let everything out because I have been in denial with myself for days before making the moves and then yeah....it fails... this guy had a crush on me 2 month ago. We were on a sport team together. We never really talked and the only time that we were alone and talking I noticed the way how he looked at me and I got the message. However it was summer, and I am really the nerd type so I just study intensely during college and go crazy during summer. As a result, never really talked to him afterwards. At the last group diner, just before we left, he asked me if he will see me around in college (he thought that we go to the same one) and I said that I don't go there, he seemed really disappointed and hugged me. because of that hug, even though we were never really closed, I just got some feelings for him (don't ask why I DON'T KNOW). and I talked to him on facebook. He was really happy and gave me his number and asked me to text him when I get bored in class. But he ended the conversation with "i have to go, btw have fun talking with A" (A is one of his super close friend, a guy on the same sport team that I never really talked to either )which totally confused me, because I never mentioned anything about I was talking to his friend. He just told me that so I know that He KNOWS that I am talking to his friend. I interpreted that as a sign of frustration: He thought I was interested and then he realizes that I was also talking to his friend that I wasn't really close with. so probably I was just being friendly with everyone. For the next few times that we talked, each time that He mentions his friend, i make sure that he understands that I am not interested in his friend. and I texted him several times. Yesterday I had a really bad day, so I texted him abt that and he didn't reply. That was the moment that I realize that maybe he is not that interested. he replies and is super nice when I just mess around and text him random stuff, but each time that i talk abt my life or get a bit flirty, he stops replying. and he never contacted me by himself. I don't know if he is still a little bit interested, but I don't care anymore. He is obviously not willing to show me the interests that I deserve while I was doing all the texting and making sure that he understands that I was not interested in his friend. I am very disappointed and a bit hurt too. It is just so hard to get over this, because it started well. so you feel a need to get justification that it's his fault for not reading your mind. you didn't respond to him when he first approached you. you can't expect him to do so later. he made his move, you didn't respond, it's YOUR fault if you want something from him now, not his. it started well for you, because you thought you could keep him on the backburner as long as you wanted and pluck him from the trees whenever you felt like it. when he didn't play along you got upset because EVERYTHING didn't go your way. Edited September 15, 2011 by thatone
Author dizy Posted September 15, 2011 Author Posted September 15, 2011 I didn't think that people would think of the situation that way... like I said, It was during summer and I didn't really care about dating, I was surrounded by friends and enjoying my time. and I talked to him on facebook just trying to be friendly and get to know him more. the way how he reacted gave me hope that he might still be interested. and I am by no mean accusing him of anything right now. after all, everyone has the right to be not interested. I wanted just to write it out because I was frustrated by my own emotions. I don't even know where do you draw your conclusions from.
Author dizy Posted September 15, 2011 Author Posted September 15, 2011 so you feel a need to get justification that it's his fault for not reading your mind. you didn't respond to him when he first approached you. you can't expect him to do so later. he made his move, you didn't respond, it's YOUR fault if you want something from him now, not his. it started well for you, because you thought you could keep him on the backburner as long as you wanted and pluck him from the trees whenever you felt like it. when he didn't play along you got upset because EVERYTHING didn't go your way. but thank you for your reply. whether it is true, it is always nice to hear some honest thoughts. It is just not possible to hear them from any of my friends since they care abt me so much and wouldn't say anything to hurt my feelings. Next time, if I am interested I would make my move, sooner =)
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