SpiralOut Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 (edited) I'm pretty sure the answer to this question is yes, but I'd like to hear it from someone with an objective point of view. There is this guy I really like. 'There is a thread on it already that goes over the basics http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=295359&page=2 here's the breakdown. - we work together - he is the one who initated trying to get to know me by always saying hi to me, trying to get my attention etc - he is the one who asked for my phone number ("joking" to me that he was using the occasion as an excuse to get my number) - he is the one who first asked me to hang out with him outside of work - the first time we hung out outside of work was in a group setting. i put a beer label on him. the people around us started joking that it meant that i liked him. at the end of the night he texted me to tell me he had fun with me and that he still had the beer label - he initiated texts most days of the week just to ask me about my day - he has initiated a couple of other hangouts I have initiated several text messages and I have invited him out a couple of times. Last thursday it became clear we liked each other. I thought he was blowing me off and we were texting back and forth about it. I was upset that he seemed to be blowing me off, and he was wondering why I didn't say goodbye to him at work (I didn't hear him say goodbye). He then asked me if I had gone home yet (I hadn't, just yet) and wanted to still meet up with me. Anyway, we ended up meeting up for food and drinks and he paid for it even though I offered to pay for my half. He said it was okay and I could just pay next time we hang out. We then walked over to his place and watched TV. I used my feminine wiles to flirt with him (putting my legs on his lap, making excuses to touch him). He wasn't very responsive to my flirtations and actually looked very awkward. He did grab my hairclip and put it in his hair. We also stared at each other alot. When it was time for me to go he let me borrow a sweater. Nothing happened at the door. He then told me that we would hang out again sometime. I almost kissed him but didnt (damn it) The next day at work we stared at each other a lot but otherwise acted normal. Ever since that night we hung out, he hasn't been initiating texts with me. He'll answer if I text him first though. I even went for a couple of days without texting to try and wait, but nope nothing. But when we do text he acts normal. I saw him again today at work and we acted normal enough. I gave him his sweater back. Then I overheard him talking to his friend (another coworker) and I guess he met some girl at a bar when they went out friday night (the night AFTER we had our "date" or whatever you may call it). As far as I know, he and the girl texted back and forth for a while and she invited him to come over. I don't know if he went over or not. He did mention that he thinks she is too young. Later in the day when his friend asked if he remembered the girls name, he said ""ummmmm" for quite some time, as if he couldn't remember it. So I guess that means he's not serious about her. So does this guy like me or not?? I am so confused by the way he doesn't respond when I try to hit on him. The way that he's not initiating texts anymore also worries me. Did I do something to scare him off? I think I've probably been acting too available by always saying yes. I do have busy nights where I can't see him but whenever he asks me it happens to be on a night where I'm not doing anything. I know I am probably insecure. It just seems like whenever I really really like a guy, I somehow manage to sabatoge myself and I am now worried that maybe I should have hit harder on him, or maybe I came on too strong. Maybe I just need to chill out and give him space. I am not texting him today. In fact I'm going to just wait and see what he does. I've noticed he tends to ask me out on thursdays and fridays, so I'll see if he does that this week. I hate that I'm allowing this to bother me so much. In fact I am questioning if I am even in a good position to be in a relationship. Something can't be right if I am becoming this jealous and upset. I mean, after i heard about the girl from the bar I could hardly thing straight for a few hours. If that had happened a few weeks ago it would be no big deal but why would he send me all these signals that he likes me and then suddenly switch gears and talk to this other girl? and stop texting me so much? What do you think? Edited September 14, 2011 by SpiralOut
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