quietGuy13 Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 What's the purpose of nature putting Beautiful girls in our path(when walking or wherever we go)if we're never gonna have any of those girls? Is it so that we build strong desire to keep looking for girls and to mate eve if we won't end up with those kinds of girls? Nature is so mean to me, it has been always. Every time I go out, if i go to any shopping center or near shopping centers or restaurnsts all of a sudden a hot beauty walks by me. I dont understand what the point is? Why have attraction and get turned on if i'm never gonna have that girl? Anyways, I think i'm being punished by nature or God. Everytime i go out, I either see lots of Attractive girls or they pass close by me. I really dont understand why this happens. Really, what's the point if I'm never gonna have those girls. That's why for the most part I dont like to go out much and just stay home. Seeing girls just makes me more depressed. ON THE OTHER HAND, women , from what i hear, don't really care that much about looks, so they dont suffer that much when they see hot men in the street. Do they? In fact they dont care because if they are the beauties themselves, then they know they can have any men wheneeever they want. they'll have 100 guys desiring them. This is just something i thought about today cause as soon as I decided to walk by some restuarants sudden out of nowhere , a Hot beauty was walking my way. I just had to look down to the ground to forget her. I've never heard of Women suffering from not getting the hot guy. But men do suffere alot.
OnyxSnowfall Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 Hmm. Many women suffer one another's beauty. Constantly they compare themselves and berate themselves when they think they aren't physically good enough --- many of them squirm and agonize inside when their men gawk and desire other hotter women --- some of them lose complete confidence in themselves and become embittered or depressed. But as far as suffering from "hot" males wandering about? Probably some women do, I don't =x
tb24 Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 Ask yourself, why aren't you going to have that girl? 1) You're not being punished. 2) It's your own insecurity which makes you think you can't get those girls. I've been through similar myself but I'm finally starting to realise that actually, yes, some girls do find me attractive. 3) There's close to a 1:1 ratio of guys to girls on this planet. Girls want guys as much as guys want girls. I'm sure girls do suffer, but they don't care as much about looks. They can't all get the cute doctor can they? It's your own attitude which makes you unattractive, you're probably an average looking guy.
verhrzn Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 Women don't feel punished about hot guys walking by... We're punished by guys like you who date us, and then complain about how you can't have these hotter girls... Seriously, dude.
AHardDaysNight Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 Dude, please stop fantasizing about the girls who don't want you, and actually go after the ones who DO want you! I am one to talk, but right now, nobody really wants me. I have a lot of social skills and anxiety to work on, and right now I am not ready for dating. You should ask yourself if you're ready for dating. And if not, perhaps you should work on yourself first?
tb24 Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 Dude, please stop fantasizing about the girls who don't want you, and actually go after the ones who DO want you! I am one to talk, but right now, nobody really wants me. I have a lot of social skills and anxiety to work on, and right now I am not ready for dating. You should ask yourself if you're ready for dating. And if not, perhaps you should work on yourself first? Don't make excuses. Jump in and get on with it. The more you say "I'll start dating once...." the harder it'll become to start.
AHardDaysNight Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 Don't make excuses. Jump in and get on with it. The more you say "I'll start dating once...." the harder it'll become to start. It's not like I am not trying! But I have to make friends first. Making friends is the first step to dating...and not being able to even say "hi" to a girl, much less make friends with her, is not helping me get a girlfriend.
tb24 Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 I'll admit, I struggle to do that as well. I mean really, I posted a while back about a girl who was giving me loads of signals but still I couldn't talk to her :-\ I've kind of resorted to online dating at least for now. At least that gets me some interaction with girls and more used to flirting, hah.
AHardDaysNight Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 I strike out on online dating, simply because I am not conventionally attractive. I come across way more attractive offline to girls, but I can't talk to them offline. So I am pretty well screwed.
Elysian Powder Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 (edited) What's the purpose of nature putting Beautiful girls in our path(when walking or wherever we go)if we're never gonna have any of those girls? Is it so that we build strong desire to keep looking for girls and to mate eve if we won't end up with those kinds of girls? Nature is so mean to me, it has been always. Every time I go out, if i go to any shopping center or near shopping centers or restaurnsts all of a sudden a hot beauty walks by me. I dont understand what the point is? Why have attraction and get turned on if i'm never gonna have that girl? Anyways, I think i'm being punished by nature or God. Everytime i go out, I either see lots of Attractive girls or they pass close by me. I really dont understand why this happens. Really, what's the point if I'm never gonna have those girls. That's why for the most part I dont like to go out much and just stay home. Seeing girls just makes me more depressed. ON THE OTHER HAND, women , from what i hear, don't really care that much about looks, so they dont suffer that much when they see hot men in the street. Do they? In fact they dont care because if they are the beauties themselves, then they know they can have any men wheneeever they want. they'll have 100 guys desiring them. This is just something i thought about today cause as soon as I decided to walk by some restuarants sudden out of nowhere , a Hot beauty was walking my way. I just had to look down to the ground to forget her. I've never heard of Women suffering from not getting the hot guy. But men do suffere alot. You haven't met enough women. Women aren't automatically given the guy they honestly want. Many settle with the guy they can get - the boyfriend - and many more sleep around with the man who makes them wet and then complain that he's commitment-phobic or that there are no good men left. You'll probably find the sleeping around, looking to capture that highly desirable man, in their teens and up until they are late 20's. At around the age of 28 they figure out that the guy they've been banging for the past few years is never going to commit(because he ain't no real man!), and the women, when the boyfriend/husband comes across his partner's past, tell how they ''were '' abused or had ''low self-esteem''. Not even the hottest of women get the man they want 100% of the time. Anyway. I applaud your honesty. You want the hot women; go get them! I can tell you that they fck really well, making it more than worth the effort of bedding them and compensates the effort one has to put to bed them. If you have to work hard to bang average women, then trust me. You're wasting your time with women. Only put work into it IF the woman is good-looking. I come across way more attractive offline to girls, but I can't talk to them offline. So I am pretty well screwed. You can't? Why? It doesn't take much to say hello. Good-looking women always have an entourage of less attractive women to make them look even hotter. Ask the good-looking gals to introduce you(after you are good friends with the hot chicks) to women(her friends) who are your equal in looks. Problem solved. Edited September 14, 2011 by Elysian Powder
AHardDaysNight Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 What is average? What is good looking? In fact, a man who has this shallow of a personality is not beautiful on the inside. He is severely lacking in the personality department. He will never be happy, because the woman will age and he will never be satisfied with what he has.
ScreamingTrees Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 http://i32.photobucket.com/albums/d47/natethegreat7037/YU.jpg Sorry you feel this way man. I hope this picture helps you. lol? I like how Quietguy thinks he should "have" a woman, not "be with" her.. Some guys really do make their female counterparts out to be some sort of aliens, that's the real issue here.
AHardDaysNight Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 lol? I like how Quietguy thinks he should "have" a woman, not "be with" her.. Some guys really do make their female counterparts out to be some sort of aliens, that's the real issue here. Very true. I think it comes from low self esteem.
Richard Friedman Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 You haven't met enough women. Women aren't automatically given the guy they honestly want. Many settle with the guy they can get - the boyfriend - and many more sleep around with the man who makes them wet and then complain that he's commitment-phobic or that there are no good men left. You'll probably find the sleeping around, looking to capture that highly desirable man, in their teens and up until they are late 20's. At around the age of 28 they figure out that the guy they've been banging for the past few years is never going to commit(because he ain't no real man!), and the women, when the boyfriend/husband comes across his partner's past, tell how they ''were '' abused or had ''low self-esteem''. Not even the hottest of women get the man they want 100% of the time. Anyway. I applaud your honesty. You want the hot women; go get them! I can tell you that they fck really well, making it more than worth the effort of bedding them and compensates the effort one has to put to bed them. If you have to work hard to bang average women, then trust me. You're wasting your time with women. Only put work into it IF the woman is good-looking. You can't? Why? It doesn't take much to say hello. Good-looking women always have an entourage of less attractive women to make them look even hotter. Ask the good-looking gals to introduce you(after you are good friends with the hot chicks) to women(her friends) who are your equal in looks. Problem solved. Bang on. Most sensible post I've seen in a while. 1
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