CarrieT Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 think it was just a joke. That's the point. It was a joke at a particular ethnic persons' expense and is wrong and offensive.
Badsingularity Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 There is nothing you can do about it. You can't change other peoples behavior. Just learn to ignore it.
carhill Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 He tells me I'm too sensitive. lol IMO, he's not completely wrong Look, you'll probably be dealing with this for another generation or so and it's up to you how you do. You've got choices. Heck, even when you get to my age, you might still be having those horndog 20 something guys looking down your dress (my exW used to get that all the time). Learning to deal with it is part of life. TBH, save for the insane and criminal element, most of the guys who stare at you are chickens. My exW used to knock 'em down with a stare or a carefully chosen word or two. Or, she'd just smile and write it off as typical male behavior. She handled men pretty well, no pun intended. Ask your BF for suggestions. I'll bet he has some, other than to 'stop being so sensitive'. Find some positive solutions. They're out there.
Yamaha Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 You seem to have an issue with age since old guys creep you out the most. If your attractive, young and old will find you so. Unless they accost you take it as a compliment and carry on. Attractive women know (or should) how to handle male attention in what ever form it comes.
irc333 Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 It doesn't make me paranoid, I just don't like it. Just suck it up and deal with it. It's something called life. There are just some things IN life that you're not going to like, and you're going to have to just grin and bite the bullet Everyone agree?
mtber75 Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 This OP reminds of that post several month back where she didn't like guys looking at her while working out at the gym? Your being a little paranoid...How do you know if their looking at you alone, they just might be looking at your direction? Plus how can you tell if their hornballs? Isn't looking at people and smiling a common courtesy...At least where I life.
Eddie Edirol Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 Just suck it up and deal with it. It's something called life. There are just some things IN life that you're not going to like, and you're going to have to just grin and bite the bullet Everyone agree? she likes to get upset by this, thats why shes wont consider sucking it up and dealing with it. Ill wager that more of her other issues that connect to this will come out in subsequent posts.
irc333 Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 He tells me I'm too sensitive. lol I bet your boyfriend was the ONLY man in your life that you didn't feel bothered by him being interested in you, right?
Elysian Powder Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 (edited) Just looking for different opinions on how to deal with unwanted attention from some creepy guys. I guess I should be flattered that someone may think I'm attractive but at the same time I don't like being leered at when I'm just trying to walk into a store or just drive home from work. I dress conservatively so I'm not one of those women letting my breasts or ass hang out. In that case I think some women deserve getting this kind of attention. But I'm the total opposite of that. I'm in a relationship and sometimes even when I'm out with my bf it happens. Its to the point now that I almost want to make it clear that its not welcome. How to deal? It's ok. I know how you feel. It does suck to be desired by the opposite sex. I have good news for you. As the decades pass, women more good-looking and younger than you will be just around the corner and no man will ever bother you - they won't even look at you. for now, I know, you have to endure the cruelty of having guys showing interest in you, but gratefully, you'll become invisible soon enough . Edited September 14, 2011 by Elysian Powder
AmEricanWomann Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 OP, its easy. When you see a guy staring at you, pretend youre on your cell phone...and say real loudly into the phone "Did you go to the drug store and get me that cream that the doctor prescribed?! Well do it before I get home, I feel like I'm being eaten alive down there and the itching has turned into a burning!" Make sure you squirm too...that'll take care of 90 percent of unwanted male attention, the other 10 percent, well...for those guys you just gotta learn to walk real fast.
irc333 Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 Make sure you squirm too...that'll take care of 90 percent of unwanted male attention And the general public in the vicinity will probably think TMI.
Casablanca Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 I'd have no issue if women everywhere were ogling me up and down..enjoy it This OP reminds of that post several month back where she didn't like guys looking at her while working out at the gym? There are a lot of lookers at my gym, hard to keep one's eyes off of them...I'll give them a glance or two, not gonna stare and creep them out...them in those pants and sometimes stretching in certain ways...yowzers... ...it is pretty much impossible for an attractive girl to not get checked out...just see it as a compliment:p
delilah123 Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 (edited) Hmm I actually kind of get this. I'm not incredible looking I'm okay though. I get really uncomfortable sometimes. I hate when im siting on a bus and a guy stares the whole trip then goes "you've got really nice legs" when he gets off the bus. I also blush and feel awkward when my friends compliment me and actually don't let my boyfriend compliment me when others might overhear. I am consistently suprised by the attention I get though. It makes me wonder what it must be like for serious lookers. Strangely enough I don't appear to be not confident. I generally am pretty confident in myself and my looks. I just feel super super awkward talking about it or having people who I don't know learing at me. I can't describe why It just makes me wish I was invisible. I don't think it's something I can just "tune out". But I'm always polite and say thank you or just pretend I can't notice the learers. I do actually avoid the gym partially due to feeling uncomfortable. My boyfriend isn't phased since I don't really complain about it. Boys will be boys and seedy old men will be seedy. At the end of the day I'd prefer to be attractive. Edited September 15, 2011 by delilah123
irc333 Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 (edited) I also blush and feel awkward when my friends compliment me and actually don't let my boyfriend No offense, but I'm wondering how these ladies wound up with boyfriends. Not making fun, being serious here. Because these just seems like words/experiences spoken by an unattached woman. Edited September 15, 2011 by irc333
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