DorothyGail Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 Just looking for different opinions on how to deal with unwanted attention from some creepy guys. I guess I should be flattered that someone may think I'm attractive but at the same time I don't like being leered at when I'm just trying to walk into a store or just drive home from work. I dress conservatively so I'm not one of those women letting my breasts or ass hang out. In that case I think some women deserve getting this kind of attention. But I'm the total opposite of that. I'm in a relationship and sometimes even when I'm out with my bf it happens. Its to the point now that I almost want to make it clear that its not welcome. How to deal?
Author DorothyGail Posted September 14, 2011 Author Posted September 14, 2011 Wear a burqa. still a little too hot..
CarrieT Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 Wear a burqa. You know, that is just really rude and inappropriate.
Author DorothyGail Posted September 14, 2011 Author Posted September 14, 2011 You know, that is just really rude and inappropriate. think it was just a joke.
EnigmaticClarity Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 You know, that is just really rude and inappropriate. Why? Men are going to be horndogs no matter what you do, so if she's that gorgeous, she's gotta hide it all.
Author DorothyGail Posted September 14, 2011 Author Posted September 14, 2011 Why? Men are going to be horndogs no matter what you do, so if she's that gorgeous, she's gotta hide it all. Some people take things a little too personally.
EnigmaticClarity Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 still a little too hot.. Wow, you must have really stunning eyes.
Author DorothyGail Posted September 14, 2011 Author Posted September 14, 2011 Wow, you must have really stunning eyes. :confused::confused:
Eddie Edirol Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 Nothing you can do Dorothy, this is the downside of men having to have to be the aggressors as humans. Women want men to ask them out so they dont have to face rejection, youre seeing the other side to the extreme. Just learn how to tune it out and stop concentrating on it. Theres no reason to let the leerers make you paranoid.
Sanman Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 Become grossly unattractive. That should do it. However, your bf may not be happy.
Author DorothyGail Posted September 14, 2011 Author Posted September 14, 2011 Nothing you can do Dorothy, this is the downside of men having to have to be the aggressors as humans. Women want men to ask them out so they dont have to face rejection, youre seeing the other side to the extreme. Just learn how to tune it out and stop concentrating on it. Theres no reason to let the leerers make you paranoid. It doesn't make me paranoid, I just don't like it. For example, I'm 32 years old, and the yesterday I was sitting in traffic and got stuck side by side of a 60 something year old man. He was looking so intently I thought his eyes would pop out of his head. I don't really get what these guys think will happen by looking at women. Did he think I would roll down my window and make conversation? Makes me cringe.
Author DorothyGail Posted September 14, 2011 Author Posted September 14, 2011 Become grossly unattractive. That should do it. However, your bf may not be happy. I'm confident and I think I'm attractive, but I dont think I'm no Miss America or anything.
Eddie Edirol Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 It doesn't make me paranoid, I just don't like it. For example, I'm 32 years old, and the yesterday I was sitting in traffic and got stuck side by side of a 60 something year old man. He was looking so intently I thought his eyes would pop out of his head. I don't really get what these guys think will happen by looking at women. Did he think I would roll down my window and make conversation? Makes me cringe. Sounds to me like youre looking to be bothered by men looking at you, if you let yourself be grossed out by a 60 year old guy. Do you enjoy cringing? do you enjoy talking about men leering at you? All of the other women I know tune it out, why cant you?
Author DorothyGail Posted September 14, 2011 Author Posted September 14, 2011 All of the other women I know tune it out, why cant you? Why can't some people just have manners.
Art_Critic Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 Define what you call a creepy guy ? Are you talking about the hott guy that pays attention to you or just the ugly guys ? I would think that eye contact is the key.. make sure you don't give them any eye contact. I know that I don't pay attention to women that aren't looking for it.. they look away or whatever.. but you can tell when a woman wants attention sometimes.. then those type of women might get a look from me.. I think women are beautiful but also respect the fact that they don't like to be leered at, at the same time some women do want that attention by every guy they walk by, married or single, young or old.
Feelsgoodman Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 think it was just a joke. You'll realize that many people on this board have no sense of humour...and skin about as thick as cellophane.
Art_Critic Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 It doesn't make me paranoid, I just don't like it. For example, I'm 32 years old, and the yesterday I was sitting in traffic and got stuck side by side of a 60 something year old man. He was looking so intently I thought his eyes would pop out of his head. I don't really get what these guys think will happen by looking at women. Did he think I would roll down my window and make conversation? Makes me cringe. Maybe he wasn't really staring at you but past you.. I did that the other day in traffic at a light where I was busy thinking about a job related issue and I realized that the women next to me didn't like the way I was staring.. She starting waving at me.. then I realized she thought I was looking at her.. She wasn't even in my thoughts or my eyes as I was looking past her.. I just waved back and laughed to myself...
Author DorothyGail Posted September 14, 2011 Author Posted September 14, 2011 Maybe he wasn't really staring at you but past you.. I did that the other day in traffic at a light where I was busy thinking about a job related issue and I realized that the women next to me didn't like the way I was staring.. She starting waving at me.. then I realized she thought I was looking at her.. She wasn't even in my thoughts or my eyes as I was looking past her.. I just waved back and laughed to myself... He was looking at me. I'm sure of that. I just ignored him and moved by car up a little, so than he moved his car up to mine again.
Author DorothyGail Posted September 14, 2011 Author Posted September 14, 2011 Define what you call a creepy guy ? Are you talking about the hott guy that pays attention to you or just the ugly guys ? I would think that eye contact is the key.. make sure you don't give them any eye contact. I know that I don't pay attention to women that aren't looking for it.. they look away or whatever.. but you can tell when a woman wants attention sometimes.. then those type of women might get a look from me.. I think women are beautiful but also respect the fact that they don't like to be leered at, at the same time some women do want that attention by every guy they walk by, married or single, young or old. I don't like being leered at by anyone. But to be honest it is even worse when its an older man. Just sayin.
Feelsgoodman Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 He was looking at me. I'm sure of that. I just ignored him and moved by car up a little, so than he moved his car up to mine again. Maybe you look like some famous...terrorist?
Eddie Edirol Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 Why can't some people just have manners. Cuz not everyone wants to be as civil as you want them to be, and not everyone wants to have manners. You walk away from it and move on, so why cant you tune it out?
carhill Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 How to deal? One potential Another is to accept, in public, people look at other people. If they accost you, merely dial 911 and/or use the aforementioned potential to neutralize them. How does your BF feel about this?
Author DorothyGail Posted September 14, 2011 Author Posted September 14, 2011 Maybe you look like some famous...terrorist? some blonde terrorist? maybe...
Author DorothyGail Posted September 14, 2011 Author Posted September 14, 2011 One potential Another is to accept, in public, people look at other people. If they accost you, merely dial 911 and/or use the aforementioned potential to neutralize them. How does your BF feel about this? He tells me I'm too sensitive. lol
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