Tippytoes Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t293077/ So for the past 3 weeks we have been hanging out a couple times a week and talking almost everyday. But she has so many walls up and just says that she still wants to be single for now. That she is not ready to move into a relationship. I am so confused why would she come back to me and tell me that she wants to start to work on things. We arent working on anything we are just hanging out, she has walls up and is being very distant. When we hang out everything is going perfect and it is like we are boyfriend girlfriend again, but then randomly there is like a switch goes off saying that we are getting to close or having to much fun or something and she puts up these walls and starts acting distant. I just dont get it, it seems like she wants to get back with me but she has to make a conscious effort not to completely commit to me.
wilsonx Posted September 16, 2011 Posted September 16, 2011 (edited) Nope, if she wanted to get back together with you, there would be 0 walls up. None, zero zilch. She wants to be your friend because she's one of those people that can't let go. She probably doesn't have a lot of friends either. Probably < 5 if its anything like my ex and my ex was a very attractive girl, her personality was ****. When a relationship ends, both parties must let go and go their seperate ways. Your ex wants to have her cake and eat it too. If she has walls up and tells you " she still wants to be single for now," she's lying. Don't believe me. Skim through the 100000s of posts on the breakup forum where someone's ex said same thing and 2 weeks to 2 months later, they were in a relationship. She wants to string you along, she doesnt want to let go, so you have to stand up for YOURSELF and cut the strings. Otherwise you are going to be in for a WORLD of HURT. I do not know how many possible ways to post this but you can not be friends with an ex either as the dumper or the dumpee. You can't do it, its impossible. The feelings never go away. Edited September 16, 2011 by wilsonx
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