bifmalibu Posted May 10, 2004 Posted May 10, 2004 Hey folks, I'm new here... but I had a question for you all. I am currently in a long-distance relationship until September. The problem that I am having is that I am missing her TOO much it feels like. We talk everyday, I'll usually call in the morning and we'll talk for an hour before I go to work, and then we'll web-cam for several hours at night... but during other times, when I am not with her... I just literally can't stop thinking about her. She feels the same way about me, and to prevent being total geeks we do try to live as normally as we can until we are together, and go out with friends and stuff instead of being socal hermits and never leaving our phone or computers... but for instance... I'll get home early for something, or a friend will cancel or whatever... and it feels like pure torture until I get to spend time with her again. Luckily we've only gotta deal with this through the summer... but I just wish there was someway that I could miss her less. No matter what I do to try to take my mind off of her, she pops right back into my head. Other than being far away from each other right now, everything is very healthy... we do talk and see each other over the cameras quite a bit, and we send stuff to each other and leave little romantic emails.... and she has even told me that she feels the EXACT same way and so she is struggling a bit as well. Anyone have any advice for two-love birds?
BlueLP Posted May 12, 2004 Posted May 12, 2004 How long have you two been together, and how often do you get to see each other during the long-distance? Just curious. It sounds like you are already doing the best sorts of activities you can with friends...one trap a lot of people fall into is being a "social hermit" like you described. Think about what your life would be like if you weren't talking to this person all the time....would you have enough to keep you busy and happy? If not, what sorts of things would you like to become involved in, what kinds of people would you want to meet? I've been in 2 LDR's, one that was 1.5 years, and one that was about 9 months apart, and honestly I'm not sure if the missing ever becomes easy to deal with if you really like the person. I think that you have to plan out your next visit so there is a concrete date when you get to see them, then keep yourself busy and happy with your pseudo-single life in the meantime, and stay thankful that you're with a wonderful person who you miss so much. There is no perfect substitute for seeing someone in person, but being in a LDR reveals a lot about a couple's communication. It sounds like you are ahead of the game in that aspect, so good luck friend.
LILUIL Posted May 12, 2004 Posted May 12, 2004 Keep a mini "I miss you book". when she comes back you can give that to her. She'd feel touch for sure. Surprise! Just an idea.
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