whererusunlight Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 I feel like I can't stay in this apartment anymore. My lease ends in December. The memories are killing me. A few friends told me that I just need to rearrange and spruce up the place to help forget about her. But I can't help but feel depressed here. When I've stayed with friends, i've felt better. The other night, when I came back home, I just felt that sinking, depressed feeling returning. One of my friends said I can stay at his house since he has an extra room for much cheaper than what my apartment rent is. I'm really thinking about breaking my lease and moving in that room. Does breaking a lease ruin your credit or is that just an eviction. I just feel that moving out is better for my sanity. Have any of you gone through this feeling?
mike588 Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 How much longer is your lease?? Talk to the apt manager and see if you can't work something out. I know how your feeling,, it may be best to do that to get a new start. It's hard to move on when memories abound.
othersideofthepillow Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 Funny that you actually bring this up cause i currently have the same opinion. the apartment that i currently live in was with my ex. moved in to it back in april. painted it together, wrote loving little messages on the walls to each other while we were painting and now its stuck there. in my opinion i know that it does lessen at times, but when its a really rough day, and your feeling really upset about the ex, that its kills no matter if you change everything or not. you cant "rearrange" the memories you have of that person being in that apartment with you, even if you did move furniture or paint the walls, you cant change your memories. I know that when i leave this apartment it will help tremendously, but for now i try to not let it bother me....that much and when i does i just talk to my other roommate or go to a friends place. also if you "break a lease" and leave early, it wont really ruin your credit, however the complex will get in contact with small claims and they will collect the remaining amount from you. what you should do, is call your management office and find out if there is a early termination fee. i know for me i can leave early and pay a fee of 1 1/2 months rent and thats all (the deposit can be used towards this as well). hope that helps
mike588 Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 Years ago I had the same thing happen and just left the apt. Years later when I tried to get another apt. I was denied because I skipped out 2 months early (even though I told the manager at the old place) All I had to do was pay what was owed at the old place,, got a letter saying it was payed in full and they allowed me to get the new place. If you bail from where you are and don't have the money to pay the rent to/thru Dec. send the manager what you can afford each month till it's paid off.Hopefully if you move in with a friend you will be able to save money and pay it off fast. Save all your reciepts,canceled checks,money orders etc. Again I know how you feel and it helped me so much to get out of that memory filled place. God it's so tough!!!
Author whererusunlight Posted September 14, 2011 Author Posted September 14, 2011 othersideofthepillow, you are soo correct in saying that you can't take away the memories. It's engrained in this place. I put up artwork that she hated but nothing changes. Thanks mike. They told me if I move all my stuff out immediately (which isn't much since she took everything) and drop off the keys, I will have to pay the rest of the rent until december. They said they usually spread that out over a while and can work with me. I would rather pay the rest of the rent until december while i live at my friends than stay here and sink into a black hole.
mike588 Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 Great, get out of there! You dont need to be alone in there and by being with friends it will help you cope. Good luck and keep us posted!
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