What's goin on inside of her head

[Valienty]

So this girl liked me, but i didnt back then. Over the summer she'd call me randomly and talk for long time and text me and what not i wasnt interested. A couple weeks later i asked her to go to the movies with me, but then i told her that friends were joining us (Bad move) then she didnt coem and i called her after i went out with those guy and asked her why she didn make it.

 

We planned something else but she couldnt make it. I texted her "So we up for today at 3?" she was like "sorry i fell on my back yesterday and got a foot infection sorry cant make it" and i was an as ass and said "Well next time text me before hand im not here sittin waiting for you, hope you feel better" I know i was an ass and i dont know how i said that..

 

couple weeks later i see her on campus. she is all smiling and wants to hugs, i wasnt feeling good that day so i was cold and just shook her hand. she told me to walk her to this palce, i told her no im going home. she then told me to call her, i told her i wont call you till you answer my text.

 

I KNOW I WAS AN ASS!!! DIDNT MEAN TO

 

Striker #4 I text her by accident "Sorry cant make i been really sick and got alot going on" so she texts me "Dude hwat's wrong with you" and she cared alot, i sent her "oops wrong person" I know my fault...

 

 

So i try texting her when univeristy started, i noticed that her replies were cold and she wudn always pick up the phone, so i called her and apologized for my previous actions, i seemed confident and took full responsibility. she was happy and said that she understands and told me she wishes i was here with her righ tnow this moment.

 

I meet her in univeristy couple days later, she holds my hands and leans on my shoudler and we chat, then she'd act cold or goes talking to her friends.

 

I found her birthday was tommrow, so I drew her a protrair of herself. I gave it to her and she was happy and i told her if she is free that we'd go out, she said i might be free. i told her cool will give me a call then. She told me give me a call too and let me know how your tryouts went. I texted her later that night told her how it went, she never replied back or called or told me anything.

 

I decided not to text/call her. cuz there's nothin i can do as of now. I would seem desperate if i were to do anything else. If she is mad, playing hard to get, or not interested. I cant really tell. So i would like your help people

[Valienty]

Any ideas?

[c0nfuzd]

she could have been busy; million reasons why she didn't get back to you right away

 

but you need to be a little nicer if you are trying to get this girl; doesn't sound to me like you are sure of yourself based on some of the things you're doing to her

 

so first, decide in your head whether you want her or not; and if you do, be a little nicer

 

for now, don't do anything; you have played your card; let her play hers

 

you never had her in the first place so you have nothing to lose

[madjac74]

You guys obviously aren't making a good connection. It seems like you guys spend more time being annoyed with each other and playing mind games and you are just spinning your wheels and going nowhere. I would just let it fizzle out, maybe stay friends but that doesn't even seem like a good option.

[Valienty]

I agree, I wasnt sure of myself back then whether i liked her or not. But everything else proves that I do now. I understand it might be too late, and there is no one esle to blame but me. I can justify my actions, i had a previous relationship and ended badly and I guess this si why i said those things. This is no excuse and i take full responsibility. Does she at least know i like her? Did she like me back then? If i can only know if she was busy, not intersted, or playing hard to get. Id know what to do ;/

[Valienty]

So it is ruined?

Edited September 14, 2011 by Valienty

[carhill]

IMO, there was never anything to ruin. You were a random thing to her.

 

Hint: Next time a lady calls you and you sense 'talk a long time' coming on, say 'hey, we'll continue this on our date' and cut her off. Say it even if you haven't asked her on a date. It sets a boundary. I call it the no-tampon zone.

[Valienty]

When i say "ruined" i mean is there no hope? is there anything I can do? I really like her alot now, having gotten over my past fail relationship. too bad I meesed up badly. But I just want to know if there is anything i can do, I'll do it ;/

[carhill]

She's playing with you. Analyze the events you described in your OP and you'll see it. She invests nothing; there's no downside for her.

 

I got played like a fiddle when I was your age. My strings are a bit tougher now.

[Valienty]

Sucks to be me i guess....you positive it is a game?