ruffianheart Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 I was wondering how everyone here has been able to positively deal with rejection? That seems to be the biggest hurtle for me. Hearing the words from my ex: "I'm not in love with you" has really hurt my self-esteem. For so many years, he told me he "loved me so much," he always told me I was beautiful, and he was so affectionate toward me. Now he says he loves me, but only as a friend. I guess I was guilty of feeling validated by his feelings for me, which I know is wrong. How have people on here moved past those feelings of rejection and stopped placing such importance on what the ex felt or feels about you?
A7X Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 I've been lucky enough to have a co-worker (that happens to be hot) help me threw everything and encourage me. As well as family and friends. I know it's hard, most of the time we are better off without these ppl in our lives and most of the time. it's just with time that we realise this.
lymtal1 Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 rh, yea this bothered me a great deal early on. it knocked me down and made me question myself. i found this post (below) and it helped me understand what rejection is and is not. also made me realize that we naturally personalize everthing and everybody that "rejects" us. hard not to do but have to know that it's gonna happen in every aspect of life and how we deal with it will shape us going forward. i suggest that you need to understand that because someone has decided that you are not for them, they did you a favor. if you really think about it, that means they are not right for you and that is more important a revelation. so be happy in a way that they did "reject" you and find someone who won't. Turn this around and look at the positive. http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/why-avoiding-rejection-actually-opens-you-up-to-more-why-its-not-always-rejection/
Recommended Posts