Buttercup84 Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 I don't know if I am healing . It has been 3 months now and 3 days nc . We were together 2 years .I was a wreck at first . Went on anti depressants and had a break down . I begged, went to hospital etc for a day because I was t coping . Weekends are the hardest , but I go to work , the gym, eat healthy. And study . I see my friends and have goals . There are days where I hate him , am glad he is gone and I feel excited about my life . Then I miss him so much . He was sweet mostly but emotionally abusive . So of course my confidence needs a lot of work . I am able to laugh , even find other men cute . I'm not ready to date , I just want to focus on my life and be happy , I was too dependent on him . The good days are longer now . things still trigger it , and some days I just want to run to him and see him . Today I'm good , gonna buy myself a clothes and study , I am working close to a beautiful beach and it's spring . Actually excited about it , buy also scared and saddened about him .
omkara Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 Please don't be my ex, please don't be my ex, please don't be my ex. OH THANK THE HEAVENS, you're from Australia! Phew. ^Literally my reaction while reading the first few lines of your post. It sounds like you're healing to me.
ConfusedT Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 of course you are healing. look at your first statement. at first you were a wreck!! now youre not so much. it takes time, remember everyone heals different, but they say true healing takes about half the time of the relationship, unless you were very emotional or dependent (me*), but it takes time to heal. missing him is natural, he was a major part of your life. moving on is EASIER when you break up with that person and also easier with a rebound, BUT wouldn't you rather heal and deal with the issues, so next time around, when the redflag of emotional abuse comes up (which mine did as well), you are strong enough and respect yourself enough to walk away??? =)
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