rubberball Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 my best friend, of 6 years, started the process to get divorced in January. There had always been rumors about us, but nothing ever happened. About one month after the separate we first kissed, slept together and we were happy. This continued for about two months, and she came to talk to me and said she doesn't know what she wants but she is happy right now. We continue what we are doing, sex, kissing, holding hands, we saw each other almost every day. i did almost everything for her chores around the house, we would shop together, life, we lived it together. Her kids loved me and asked their mom if we were going to get married. I felt like I was pulled into the family, I was there to help her parents move, to help her sell her house and move into the new one (one she picked right down the street from me). It was, I thought more then just sex, I saw a connection. This went on for 5 more month. Each day better then the last. She would call me 6 times a day just to see what I was doing,text me that she wanted to kiss me, I thought we were a couple - some of her friends told her not to mess it up, that I was a keeper. I thought we had a date on a Friday night at this hole in the wall she wanted to go to. The afternoon before the date she called and said she had to go to a fund raiser and maybe we could go out tomorrow. I said okay thinking it was something for her dad... Turns out she went out with a guy that did work on her house, and apparently she "just kissed him" and he left by 3. We had a rather large disagreement about that the next day, I don't think she thought I would know. I told her where I was in the relationship and that I thought, even if we didnt talk about it there was some level of exclusiveness. She said she never agreed to that, and that her "walls" were up. We talked a lot and tried to be friends. I took us all out to the movies and mowed her yard but she acted was very distant. She asked me to do a few small favors and I did them. Then she asked me watch her dogs so she could go out of town to see a football game with the guy she kissed. I said no, if she was going on a date with someone I couldn't watch then she "jumpped me" saying things like they are only dogs, and she didnt think it would be a big deal. After that I did hear from her much at all. I assumed things were over. I have some of her stuff from the move and she asked if she could get them. I said sure, when? But I did ask that I get the key back to my house and I would give the key back to her car. She got really mad at me. The next day she called and I called back and she tried to pretend that she didn't call but wanted to make small talk. We did for a minute. During this time I was asking her to get my name off her cable bill. I had setup the account and asked her the same day to take my name off, but she was too busy. i pushed her to take my name off and finally, after I said I would call her dad, she agreed to meet me. She brought her friend so she wasn't alone - we got my name off the bill. She has been very distant and I miss her, she was my best friend. I don't really know what I did so wrong. I said I could help her go out of town with someone else when a week and a half before we were in bed together. The whole situation doesn't make any sense to me... What am I missing?
wilsonx Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 She has been very distant and I miss her, she was my best friend. I don't really know what I did so wrong. I said I could help her go out of town with someone else when a week and a half before we were in bed together. The whole situation doesn't make any sense to me... What am I missing? Have you ever heard the term rebound? That's what you are missing! That's it. Toasted the friendship to become a rebound. Sucks doesnt it! I have done it before
Author rubberball Posted September 14, 2011 Author Posted September 14, 2011 She has been very distant and I miss her, she was my best friend. I don't really know what I did so wrong. I said I could NOT help her go out of town with someone else when a week and a half before we were in bed together. The whole situation doesn't make any sense to me... What am I missing? sorry type-o
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