Sunflower123 Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 (edited) I could really use some advice...and fast. My ex boyfriend broke up with me a few months ago saying he needed space. During that time I was really pretty awful as far as being very clingy, making him take on all my responsibilities, as well as picking fights. We lived together and he moved out. A month ago, we decided to work it out as roommates and friends and he moved back. For the past couple weeks he has shown interest in me and we have pretty much been dating again. I have definitely changed my attitude towards him and have been working on myself as an individual. I wanted to let things happen gradually, but he will be moving this month and wants me to come along with him. I thought I would just go and see what happens..but it's eating me up that we are back in relationship limbo. I would really like to know we are in a relationship before I decide to move with him. Also, he went on a business trip the past few days and I really thought about everything. He asked me if I was going to see any other guys while he was gone and he seemed concerned. Of course I said no, but I don't really think that completely counts as "having the talk". I would like to try to talk with him tonight after he comes home from work. I really don't know what to say or if I'm making a big mistake. I really don't want to push or ruin things, but I just feel like we are acting like a couple and I want to know if we actually are. Any good ideas of how to bring this up in a non-threatening way? Edited September 14, 2011 by Sunflower123
ja123 Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 I think you wrote that so clearly and well that that is how you should say it. Maybe write it out as a letter. But if he's coming home late after work, then now is not a good time. Wait for a day he has off and feels rested.
Author Sunflower123 Posted September 14, 2011 Author Posted September 14, 2011 I'm thinking of asking him when would be a good time for us to talk. I just don't want that question to make it sound threatening or negative conversation. He is pretty busy finishing up his old job and getting ready for his new job. I'm a little unsure of bringing up this topic since he has so much going on right now...I just also don't want to wait until it's too late. He's leaving in about 2-3 weeks.
Author Sunflower123 Posted September 14, 2011 Author Posted September 14, 2011 After reading some other posts, I'm kind of wondering if I should just bring it up more casually instead of having an "actual talk"?
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