CopingGal Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 So, what do you want your next relationship to be like? Here's what I want. A guy that is: -intelligent -kind -financially stable -LOVES TO SPEND TIME WITH ME AND DOESN'T MAKE ME LIVE OFF OF CRUMBS! -funny -light-hearted -RESPECTS ME -accepts me -likes to go out and have a nice time -likes to do different things, especially activities that we can learn from -likes to try different things -attracted to me and I am attracted to him -good in bed....but if not, is willing to learn
coltsfan1 Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 For me I would like.... 1. A LADY first and foremost 2. A best friend that is truly my partner 3. Someone to grow with as a person 4. Someone who shares my moral value does not have to be the same but hopefully 80% 5. Someone who is intellegent maybe even smarter than me 6. Someone that sees the value in me as a person and potential mate 7. A brunette with a wonderful smile 8. Someone who can dance and I DON'T mean dry hump me on the dance floor 9. Want to do similiar things and be around similiar people 10. Did I say a brunette, lol..... 11. Someone who respects themselves so I can also respect them The list could go on, but these are what's important to me.
ConfusedT Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 WILL LOVE MY SON as his own HONEST Understanding Respectful Affectionate HIS OWN Job, Car, House, Independent, Educated Self-sufficient loves me for me!
melenkurion Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 With an adult who respects me, and who I respect in turn. Where we both have the skill to communicate any issues we may have with respect, without causing pain and misunderstanding, or letting resentments fester. Where we recognise the ebb and flow of a relationship as a natural process. I want a relationship that has healthy boundaries, meaning that we both have our own healthy boundaries and we have healthy boundaries with friends. I want to be able to put aside my inner "Florence Nightingale" and caretaker and be able to trust that someone takes me as I am, that I don't have to buy their affection in some way. I want a relationship that enhances my life, not one I consider the sole point of my existence, one where I maintain my own identity. I now know how unhealthy it is to merge my sense of self into anyone else: I always want to clearly know who I am in any future relationship.
Buttercup84 Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 I want him to be proud of being seen with me , will go out with me on dates and be spontaneous . He will love cuddling up to me and desire me . He will be fun and make me laugh . He will have dreams and a good job , be independent . Love children and animals and have a kind heart . Dress nicely and be neat but not anal about it . Will share the cooking with me and make it fun . Take classes together and take me out dancing and other things . Will be smart and well read . Will have lots of books and enjoy good music . Wont be easily influenced by his friends and he will respect women. Be a great kisser and passionate in bed keep fit and look after himself . Won't ignore me and able to talk about our problems . Be educated .
Niaka44 Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 I want to be with someone who values communication as much as I do. I want to feel confident that if there is an issue, I can bring it up and count on my partner to talk it through with me and want as much as I do to find a solution. I want someone who respects me 100%, and does his best to make me feel comfortable around his friends and family. I want someone who wants to know and understand as much as he can about me, someone who will ask questions and remember my answers. I want to feel like a better version of myself when I'm with him. I want the trust that I'm not sure I've ever fully had. I want security and faithfulness. I want happiness and laughing so hard it hurts. I want falling asleep and waking up together. I want it all. And sometimes I think maybe my expectations are too high; I've certainly been told in the past that they are...but these are all things I would do for my partner as well, things I would do my best to provide. You can't ask for something you aren't willing to at least attempt to reciprocate if needed. I just want to be loved unconditionally, and I know it's possible because I've seen it and I've had it before. Now I'm in a better place than ever, and I know it's coming. Maybe not today or tomorrow or even in the next few years, but it's out there and I'll find it.
Jdw_Icequeen Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 (edited) 1. Genuine 2. Caring 3. Loyal 4. Loves my kids 5. Knows the meaning of true love 6. Sticks with me through thick and thin 7. HAS HIS OWN FRIENDS 8. No criminal background lol 9. Is sweet to me because he wants to be not because he is trying to hook me or get somthing out of it. 10. Someone who dosen't lie and I can trust with everything 11. Is able to share his feelings and emotions with out me nagging for it. 12. Affectionate but not overly needy 13. A good conversationalist 14. Someone passionate in bed 15.Has a car and his OWN STUFF! 16. Awesome sense of humor! <--- actually one of the most important things. 17. Accepts me 18. Respects me 19. Spontaneous 20 . Exciting--- My ex was so boring we might aswell have sat home watching paint dry. 21 Enouraging,Positive, and always there for me.. I'm sure there is more but those are the most important ones.. hehehe Edited September 17, 2011 by Jdw_Icequeen
TLCbear Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 Definitely a good one. One who value communication and is WILLING to communicate to solve any issues we may have throughout the relationship. Honesty and respect. Physical, mental, and sexual chemistry. One who has something to offer or bring to the table such as his own car, job, place. One who has a good sense of humor. One who is caring and understanding. One who believe in paying their bills to establish pretty good credit. One who is not secretive with their life.
Sugarkane Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 Someone who can actually communicate! Hopefully not dump me out of the blue, by text and then say that I can't communicate. Someone that doesn't have to insult me, just to make themselves feel better about themselves.
Author CopingGal Posted September 19, 2011 Author Posted September 19, 2011 Oh, and yes...I forgot. I want to be with an adult. An adult, not a man child...an adult. That is very important to me.
Author CopingGal Posted September 23, 2011 Author Posted September 23, 2011 Relatively good health Good hygiene That's two more to add to my list!
HollyHoliday Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 This is a great post! Gives you a lot to think about. I want someone who: 1. Has a happy personality 2. Who I am very attracted to 3. Can make me laugh and participate in my weirdness 4. Wants to have a healthy sexual relationship 5. Isn't controlling 6. Doesn't make judgments or have hugely negative things to say about others 7. A positive person who looks on the bright side 8. Treats me, and others, with respect 9. Is rational lol 10. Takes care of themselves and leads a balanced life.
Feelin Frisky Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 Doesn't treat me like my happiness is disposable every time she has to feel something she either doesn't understand or had judged wrongly about me. Is bubbly and buoyant and stays that way most of the time. Has a sweet voice. Treats her children with patience and reason rather than anger and vindictiveness. Is open to most any relatively safe amusement she hasn't yet tried. Likes my humor. Respects my politics even if she doesn't understand them always. Surprises me with her own humor. And low and behold, she happens to already exist and I can't believe my fortune, even though there is some geography between us as the moment. Looks and sex have never been more neotiable with those kinds of qualifications. Hopefully I will please her in the flesh too when we meet.
LelouchIsZero Posted September 26, 2011 Posted September 26, 2011 (edited) 8. Someone who can dance and I DON'T mean dry hump me on the dance floor The list could go on, but these are what's important to me. How come its important for said person to be able to dance? I find that this question has more importance then the OP, so ask yourself -- who will YOU be in your next relationship? Edited September 26, 2011 by LelouchIsZero
Author CopingGal Posted May 23, 2012 Author Posted May 23, 2012 ask yourself -- who will YOU be in your next relationship? Good question. Hmmm, let's see....kind, considerate, caring, BUT not put up with a lot of bunk. Next time, I won't be so hard on myself when I get upset because my bf said something insensitive. Also, I won't try to force myself to change to accept bad behavior. I'm a sensitive person. I need to accept that. Yes, I will cut him some slack, because I am so sensitive, but if it gets to the point, that his comments are outrageously insensitive (ex: telling me that I DON'T need an airbag in the car, telling me to go without a seatbelt when the roads are icy because mine is stuck and he doesn't have the patience to try to help me with it, etc.), I will just leave. Also, I will no longer accept crumbs of time and a relationship full of lies. I will not make excuses for ongoing bad behavior. Next time I will be strong and confident and walk away instead of putting up with a ton of bunk until my self-esteem has dropped so much, it is on the floor.
Nohbody Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 I want an equal. A partner. A cohort. I'm more concerned with the dynamics of the relationship than the characteristics of the actual person, per se.
kindest Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Someone with a kind heart Someone who will appreciate me and love me for who I really am, flaws and all Someone who knows what true love is and what it entails Someone who has plans and his plans have to include me
Author CopingGal Posted May 23, 2012 Author Posted May 23, 2012 That is nice. You know on Plenty of Fish (POF), some people are really shallow. One man's criteria was that his woman would have to be able to do 15 push ups. Another man gave exact measurements of what he wanted his woman to be.
kindest Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 That is nice. You know on Plenty of Fish (POF), some people are really shallow. One man's criteria was that his woman would have to be able to do 15 push ups. Another man gave exact measurements of what he wanted his woman to be. That's true. Most of them have superficial standards, which I understand that's how they are. I think as women it's our responsibility to look the best for our man, but I want a man who can genuinely look past the superficial. At the end of the day, we all want someone we can talk to, not someone to just look at.
Author CopingGal Posted May 24, 2012 Author Posted May 24, 2012 That's true. Most of them have superficial standards, which I understand that's how they are. I think as women it's our responsibility to look the best for our man, but I want a man who can genuinely look past the superficial. At the end of the day, we all want someone we can talk to, not someone to just look at. Actually I don't think it's my responsibility to look the best I can. I'm a gal who's comfortable in sweats. I usually don't break my back to look good for a man. If he doesn't like the way I look regularly....then screw him.
DuchessKaye Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 I just wanna have a blessed relationship. I would never deceive him in any way.
Coffee20 Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 just someone who will accept me, respect me, have similar moral values, would feel the chemistry towards me, share some hobbies and not hide me from everyone and for me I should be more confident, should respect myself more and set boundaries, not to follow my heart that much 1
Author CopingGal Posted May 24, 2012 Author Posted May 24, 2012 Just someone who will not hide me from everyone. Amen! Amen! Amen!
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