SaltyMcGee Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 So I need some advice. I was dating a girl back in Feb/March. We went on several dates and things went pretty well from my standpoint. Towards the end of March I felt her starting to lose interest so I asked her about her feelings and she let me know she just wasn't feeling it. At that time she let me know she was still having trouble with her a-hole ex bf which she claimed was messing with her letting me into her life. I was bummed but moved on. Since then I've seen her once at a party and sent her a birthday greeting a couple of months ago. Sunday, I was traveling back from Florida and watching football during a layover when I suddenly get the text "The Redskins are looking good!" (The skins are my team which she obviously knew). I waited for a few minutes and texted her back. She immediately sent me another text. We went back and forth for a few minutes then I got on my plane home. I then got on facebook and saw that she "liked" one of my wall posts. Two things: What does all this mean, and how should I handle it? I thought the two of us had a great spark when we were together and would love to try again. HELP!
Unrequitedlove Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 I wouldn't look into this too much, because you might be disappointed. Sure, she's making an effort to reach out to you, but you can never be too sure of someone's intentions, especially since you've only dated for a short while. I don't want to sound too much like a cynic and say she's just looking for an ego boost, but this is what it seems like.
Author SaltyMcGee Posted September 14, 2011 Author Posted September 14, 2011 I wouldn't look into this too much, because you might be disappointed. Sure, she's making an effort to reach out to you, but you can never be too sure of someone's intentions, especially since you've only dated for a short while. I don't want to sound too much like a cynic and say she's just looking for an ego boost, but this is what it seems like. So just go NC again, see if she gets back to me?
Unrequitedlove Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 Most definitely. If she continues to intiate any contact, keep it short and simple if you choose to reply. I've been in this situation before and ended up being used by an ex-boyfriend.
Author SaltyMcGee Posted September 14, 2011 Author Posted September 14, 2011 Anyone else have any thoughts on this one?
The_Good_Me Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 Either she is thinking of attempting a reconciliation with you and is testing the water first by contacting you, or she is checking to make sure you're still there and is after an ego boost. There is no way to know for sure at this stage so try to keep your cool and allow her to keep making the moves. There is no way to know what she is thinking and a lot of the time these situations lead to nothing. Just make sure you don't feed her anything significant, keep your replies short & simple. Generally reconciliation should be initiated by the dumper so if she doesn't come out with "I realise I made a mistake when I dumped you and I'd like to give us another go if you're willing" then she is either after an ego boost, or she isn't trying hard enough to get you back.
Author SaltyMcGee Posted September 14, 2011 Author Posted September 14, 2011 There is no way to know for sure at this stage so try to keep your cool and allow her to keep making the moves. There is no way to know what she is thinking and a lot of the time these situations lead to nothing. Just make sure you don't feed her anything significant, keep your replies short & simple. That's exactly what I did.
The_Good_Me Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 Well played mate. It's very easy to eat up the breadcrumbs and then go on a contact spree which usually ends up with the dumpee getting hurt all over again. It shows good will power and a mature approach that you have handled it well. I wish you the best with whatever comes next mate
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