90sgems Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 I have quite a few pictures of my ex girlfriend, mostly creative, non sexual on my laptop hard drive. If I were to start dating a new girl and getting serious, should I delete these? never tell her about them? The times we shared were special to me and are close to my heart. I actually like my creative photos and like to show em off... I would think to just not tell her about them as it was my past and my past wouldnt be the new gf's business. Thoughts?
thehead Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Telling your new girlfriend that you're keeping the pics around solely on the merit of their creativity might be a hard sell if she's at all insecure. Hiding them will only make your motivations seem shady. If you decide to keep them, tell her about it.
RedRedMe Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 Do you have creative pictures of friends too or just your ex? If it is just the ex, then don't even bother trying to lie. The truth always comes out eventually and the fact that you lied will make it worse. Don't go out of your way to bring up the pictures but if a gf asks, be honest. Get rid of ones that might be racy. Don't get rid of them simply because of a new relationship but it might be helpful down the road to get rid of them if you find yourself in a serious relationship. Make new photos with the new gf. You should start to expand your collection of creative photos with platonic friends.
Keridan Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 Keep them. Be honest about it. If the new gf has issues with it, decide how important they are compared to the new gf. Make the decision from there I see no need to hide anything or preemptively delete them.
ScienceGal Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 Keep them. Maybe on an external thumb drive, that way they aren't on your computer for immediate access, but are more or less archived. They are special to you, and that's ok. I wouldn't make a new partner delete photos of an ex, unless they were sexual/x-rated. Or, if they were on a social networking site, like Facebook, and they were all lovey-dovey making out shots. That'd be a little awkward if the relationship moved forward and we started to take and post photos like that. Point is, she is an ex for a reason, and old photos should not affect a new relationship.
Author 90sgems Posted September 14, 2011 Author Posted September 14, 2011 yeah I've got a lot of creative pictures of other things - buildings, landscapes, friends, birthdays, as I do photography as a hobby. Thanks guys for your input. Im leaning towards telling the future gf about the pictures when the time comes up..that I do photography as a hobby and she was just some of my inspiration at that time of my life.
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