ShrimpCocktail Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Ok gals... I want your input... Here is the scenario: You are a "alpha" girl who gets their way on a regular basis and is not used to guys putting you in your place if you act out of line. So, lets say you act rude and disrespectful at a social event, and the "alpha" guy who you are hanging with, texts you later and calls you out on your bad behavior. Then, you text him back (in the heat of the moment) and tell him off, even though you kinda liked him, knowing deep down inside you are wrong and the guy has been very sweet to you so far. 1. Do you respect a guy like this who stands up for himself and calls you out. 2. Do you feel bad inside later or stick to your pride? 3. Do you wish you never told him off in the first place and still want him to contact you, even though he might not now after what you said back was so rude? Thanks, Shrimp Cocktail
thatone Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 why do you care? that's what you should be asking yourself.
verhrzn Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 It really depends on how the "alpha" (yeah... okay...) guy called her out, and what her behavior was in the first place. Just because a guy has been sweet so far doesn't mean he can't be a complete jerk in trying to "call a girl out," and just because the guy calls her out doesn't mean her behavior was actually jerky/she feels bad about it. In other words: it really depends.
EricaH329 Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 So, lets say you act rude and disrespectful at a social event, and the "alpha" guy who you are hanging with, texts you later and calls you out on your bad behavior. He texts me to let me know?? He couldn't have called? Texting seems a bit impersonal, especially when trying to have a serious discussion about how the way I acted made them feel. ...even though you kinda liked him, knowing deep down inside you are wrong and the guy has been very sweet to you so far. There are a lot of assumptions here. But, if I really felt that way, then I definitely wouldn't have acted in such a horrible manner while out in public with them. 1. Do you respect a guy like this who stands up for himself and calls you out. Yes, but only if it's done in a proper manner. Calling, or in person, would be the most appropriate. 2. Do you feel bad inside later or stick to your pride? Depends on the situation. I wouldn't act out in public to where another person would have to say something to me about it. If I do something that I truly feel bad about, I admit it. If not, then I don't. 3. Do you wish you never told him off in the first place and still want him to contact you, even though he might not now after what you said back was so rude? All of this seems a bit... immature? For lack of a better word. I don't play games. If I feel bad, I admit it. If I don't, I also admit that. I also like to be spoken to with respect, and in a respectful manner (in person, or over the phone). There are times where I do over react, and in those situations, I apologize and admit my fault.
Ruby Slippers Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Why are you starting another thread about the same issue? This woman isn't an "alpha" woman. She's a bitch with bad manners. And you certainly don't sound like an "alpha" guy. You sound like a people-pleaser who is obsessing over the rude actions of a bitchy woman. To text throughout a date like she did is very rude. So she's either got no manners at all, or she doesn't like you enough even to give you her undistracted attention on a date. Why waste another moment with someone like this?
sm1tten Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Why are you starting another thread about the same issue? This woman isn't an "alpha" woman. She's a bitch with bad manners. And you certainly don't sound like an "alpha" guy. You sound like a people-pleaser who is obsessing over the rude actions of a bitchy woman. To text throughout a date like she did is very rude. So she's either got no manners at all, or she doesn't like you enough even to give you her undistracted attention on a date. Why waste another moment with someone like this? Cosigned. She already disrespected you, she doesn't appear to feel bad about this in the slightest, and you continuing to pursue her in the face of all this will only reinforce her bad behavior in the future. I don't think this can be saved, but really, why would you want to? All other factors aside, she was texting her "boyfriend" during your "date..." really, need I say more?
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