triphopper414 Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 So I met this guy and we were interested in each other but it was kinda rocky then we patched things up after a few weeks. That same week he was hanging all over another girl in front of me, I believe in an attempt to make me jealous. He had been sending me mixed signals the entire time, and I knew I had to confront him so I did. He was really disrespectful and would not look me in the eye. He was upset about something that happened between us a month ago even though I thought we moved beyond that. After I confronted him, it was quite clear that I did not want to talk to him. Then this past Friday he texted me (I knew that he would) and I texted him back about 18 hours later being polite but not leaving the conversation open. It is clear that he is playing games or is trying to have me as an option (both are possible). I have thought about playing games too and that is so childish. In two days we will be attending an event where there are bound to be successful, educated and single men. I want to flirt with them without making it too obvious. I would just be myself: friendly and willing to talk to anyone. I plan to look exceptional. However, I wear my emotions on my sleeve and it will be hard to fake it and I know for a fact that I will become upset if I see him flirting with some chick. I need some advice? How do I pull this off? I want to be cordial, but kinda make him jealous. I am ashamed to even attempt such a thing, but talking to him has not worked. I want things to go back to the way they were when we first met and to get his attention. I don't think this is completely over. I do think he is still interested.
thatone Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 you can't make him feel anything about you. and he can't make you feel anything about him. the only thing you're making is yourself delusional. you wanting him to want you doesn't make it so. there is no control, so you can't have it.
rightfield Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Listen to yourself. You are trying to repair/save a relationship by using jealousy as a tool. That is not constructive. If you can't talk it out like adults, move on and chalk it up to experience.
Author triphopper414 Posted September 13, 2011 Author Posted September 13, 2011 I have done that, but obviously there is something going on with him. I just don't want to be miserable when I see him. He almost made me cry in public and I have accepted the fact that he is a jerk but for some reason he feels like he did nothing wrong when he did.I just don't want him to see me angry. If I meet a guy there, I do, it will be for me, not for him. I am not making myself delusional, I am aware of the situation and understand the consequences. I guess I want to give him a taste of his own medicine.
thatone Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 you are delusional. you are asking us how to make someone think a certain way about you. we are telling you that it cannot be done.
ScienceGal Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Stop playing games. Or keep playing them and end up in one dysfunctional relationship after another and never find stability or true happiness.
somedude81 Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 It is clear that he is playing games or is trying to have me as an option (both are possible). I have thought about playing games too and that is so childish. And then you go on to describe the games you are planning on playing So I met this guy and we were interested in each other but it was kinda rocky then we patched things up after a few weeks. He was upset about something that happened between us a month ago even though I thought we moved beyond that. Obviously you haven't. What happened between you to? If it was something serious, then it wouldn't be a surprise that he's not into you.
omkara Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 you are delusional. Stop playing games. Nuff said.
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