TruthHurtsEvery1 Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Hi everyone! I'm very new at this so I hope I can explain myself and my situation to everyone's understanding. So here it goes... A little more than a year ago I decided to leave my wife for someone else. The reasoning behind that was because I wasn't happy anymore and slowly saw my life going to waste. I was so miserable! To make a long story short we eventually divorced (just this past April) and now it seems as though I made a mistake. Not because I left my ex, I'm happy about that. But now, the woman I'm with now is completely, how should I say, 'abnormal'. The views and opinions she has seem to be out of this world. I eventually got over the fact that she's almost the complete opposite of me. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. I understand every relationship is going to have arguments and differences but it's something I just can't seem to adjust to. Everytime we have a quarrel, (big or small), my very first instinct that comes to me is to leave her. UNFORTUNATELY, we live together, have one vehicle, and work at the same job and same shift. To make things crazier, we're 17 weeks pregnant. Now I know women go through all sorts of changes and I understand that. I also realize that I'm assuming most, if not all, the responsibilities. Not trying to seem mean, but she's completely stressed me out. We're financially struggling, as I assume many of us are, I'm currently in the process of finding a better paying job. We decided that she's going to quit the job she has now when baby comes. Leaving me full financial responsibility. I have no issues with any of that. The only thing that bugs the crap out of me is how she makes me feel. I feel like she's so ungrateful! Nothing I do is good enough. I'm not kidding! I refuse to cook for her because she's so extremely picky about the way her food is. Yesterday I tried cooking Ramen Noodles for her and as always I failed to meet her standards on that. I mean, really?? It's Ramen, enough said. And it's not her pregnancy hormones reacting because it's always like that. She's such a procrastinator that I've almost lost my job because she can't get ready for work in a timely manner. She'll wake up 20 minutes before we have to leave and she's not the type of woman who can get ready in that amount of time. I've asked repeatedly to manage her time more efficiently in the morning, but of course she uses the excuse that 'that's just how she is. Very last minute, EVERYTHING! ' I'm the type of person where I like to leave with plenty of time just in case something happens. Anyways, this is the very short story of everything. I Love this chic but hate her. Please tell me or help me. This is all very new and very real right now. Am I the reason for this stress? If anything, it did kinda help to finally get some of this off my chest. Please any and all opinions and advice is welcomed. Thank You for the time.
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