cloud10 Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 So I'm talking to this chick and I know she's busy with just moving into her own place and trying to get on her feet. She doesn't want to jump into a relationship but is interested in me and wants to get to know me. but...It seems like I'm always the one initializing the text conversation, or facebook, or phone. How am I supposed to get to know someone when we hang out once a week and I dont get much feedback on the phone or facebook. She seems brief with her response to my conversation and just not that interested. Yet it's different when we hang out in person. Staring at me in my eyes, carassing my arms, playing with my hair, kissing and so forth. Am I just being too needy? I have never given a girl this much attention before and I feel like it should be returned.
iJester Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Just set up dates with her, and don't call or text in between. You should also be pursuing other women, so you won't be so occupied with this one. Basically just treat her as a sex object until, she says that she wants more. Sounds crazy, but it works.
grkBoy Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Just set up dates with her, and don't call or text in between. You should also be pursuing other women, so you won't be so occupied with this one. I agree with this part. Give this girl some time. If I just moved into a new place and met some girl I'm not going to dive immediately into a RL. Bear in mind she might want to play the field and while you're a possibility for "boyfriend", she might want to date some other guys first and decide. This is why you should not put all your eggs in her basket. NEVER make someone a PRIORITY when you're only an OPTION to them.
Author cloud10 Posted September 13, 2011 Author Posted September 13, 2011 (edited) That's some great advice....now why didn't I think of that?!?! DUh! Also I have started pursuing other women since I realized she is probably "playing the field" or whatever. That's my problem is I focus all my attention on 1 girl...because well she's very attractive and has alot going for her. I have what you call tunnel vision. Edited September 13, 2011 by cloud10
Woman In Blue Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Cloud, it seems like "out of sight, out of mnd." She enjoys you when she's face to face with you, but you're not on her radar when she's busy living life. There's a definite disconnect elsewhere. And it's never good to be the one giving all the affection or being needy - that gives HER all the power and leaves you with no options. NEVER give more than you're getting.
Author cloud10 Posted September 13, 2011 Author Posted September 13, 2011 It's funny I have never put myself in this situation before. It has always been reversed. The women are usually the ones all over me and I sorta push them off like I don't care attitude. Now it's different for some reason. I feel like an idiot putting forth the effort sometimes with this chick.
heartbaitdotcom Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 So I'm talking to this chick and I know she's busy with just moving into her own place and trying to get on her feet. She doesn't want to jump into a relationship but is interested in me and wants to get to know me. but...It seems like I'm always the one initializing the text conversation, or facebook, or phone. How am I supposed to get to know someone when we hang out once a week and I dont get much feedback on the phone or facebook. She seems brief with her response to my conversation and just not that interested. Yet it's different when we hang out in person. Staring at me in my eyes, carassing my arms, playing with my hair, kissing and so forth. Am I just being too needy? I have never given a girl this much attention before and I feel like it should be returned. If she's detached she's just playing the game. Women want affection and need physical contact to feel connected to someone. That (ALONE) is not good indicator of whether or not she likes you. You have to look at the full picture to evaluate the situation and get the TRUTH. The truth lies in your gut. Follow it.
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