ls32ssibm Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 She dumped me, I was likely just a rebound guy. She really wants nothing to do with me, but I cannot stop thinking about her. Getting back together is completely unrealistic, illogical and will never happen but I keep "hoping" it will happen. I think perhaps I am just blinded by her physical beauty - it's one of those where you don't think you'll get one as pretty again. sigh
mike588 Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 She dumped me, I was likely just a rebound guy. She really wants nothing to do with me, but I cannot stop thinking about her. Getting back together is completely unrealistic, illogical and will never happen but I keep "hoping" it will happen. I think perhaps I am just blinded by her physical beauty - it's one of those where you don't think you'll get one as pretty again. sigh I too was recently dumped and was the rebound guy. I know how bad it hurts. I'm on week 6 and it is getting better and will for you too. I know what you mean about hoping to get back together. I did for one maybe two weeks but shes happy now with her ex. b/f so it wont happen anytime soon. Follow the No Contact rule,,, it will help you. Who knows what the future will hold. Maybe in some time,, many many months, a year? she will come back. Hopefully by then you will have moved on.
A7X Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Let it go man, you're just hurting yourself in the long run. Physical beauty is nothing when there is nothing beautiful inside.
EgoJoe Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 (edited) I think you would do well to remove the word "Can't" from your lexicon. Self defeating behavior will, get this: defeat you. Edited September 13, 2011 by EgoJoe
TheDovic Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Well you need to make a decision either way. It's no contact 100% or get a plan in place to get her back. Try reading a couple of books on the subject. Look for the highly rated ones on Amazon, stuff by John Alexander and David DeAngelo helped me. I still haven't got my ex back but she dumped me 2 months ago and is texting me 3/4 days a week (always her initiating the contact) and told me the other day she misses me and wants to spend time with me, so these books have helped me a lot. Last time I was dumped I freaked out and did the opposite to what I'm doing this time and that girl never tried to be in my life and is now married to someone else. My point is, if you want to forget her, go nc. If you want her back it's going to be tough and you'll need to know what to do / not to do. Good luck either way buddy
rubberball Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 I am going through the same thing right now, week 3.5. but who is counting. Its hard, and so is NC, but its the best bet if you dont want to try and get her back. I work with my ex so I see her once a week or so, its hard because she has apparently moved on better then i have. Stay strong, if she is the one for you she will come back, if not... you will find someone much more beautiful in your eyes.
Feelin Frisky Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 I refuse to call myself "dumped". It always matters what you tell yourself so I recommend not calling yourself that either. You were turned away for some half-witted female reason that will never make any sense. Maybe she'll see the light and come back. Maybe not. But you were good enough in the first place to have had her invest in you. Keep your heads up and soldier on.
Ginger Beer Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 Bro, I was the rebound guy too. First time she didn't have the courage to end it so just distanced herself while trying to get her ex back. I went NC for 4 months then she suddenly decided she wanted me back and we got back together. Then she did the same thing again. Go NC, trust me. Any time you feel sad just come on here and post, that's what I did, it helps. Lots of helpful people on this forum. 1
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