josephin Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 hi,everyone.i have been a member of this forrum for a while now and its been wonderful getting my your advices.i reall have been helped.Thanks alot. Well i write to get your views on helping a friend whose been stuck in life issues and marriage.Its a guy whose been married for ten years now.Unfortunately after up and down struggles in his marriage and trying to be the good husband his dreams never turned out real.He married this lady and after five years of their stay came to realise she could not conceive.They have sort medical help and it turned out she had a problem with the womb maybe caused by an abortion before her marriage.It broke their hearts but they sat down and agreed that the husband finds another lady who can give her a kid. The husband started dating though he never neglected her.Then he decided that since he got someone else he can organise a divorce and be with the second woman.Well it brought chaos to them and now the man is in dilemma again.They have no peace at all,the woman cannot accept being replaced plus her relatives much as the husband is willing to give back anything as compesation. The other woman aka second wife is also perturbed with the fact that she could be harmed in any way by the first wife who has threatened not to give the issue an easy go.Well she cannot conceive,she doesnt want replacement or sharing a husband and she feels no guilt to what she has subjected the husband to.on the other hand the husband seems confused and non judgemental.He is hindered by petty factors like what will people say,how will her relatives react,how will the society treat the issue etc. he doesnt want adopting a kid as he feels he can raise one.So he approaced me for advice and i would like to put what i get from you guys together with what i got and see if i can be of help.Thanks in advance
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