placeholder Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 My ex dumped me about 4.5 months ago. We were friends for about three weeks after until an incredibly minor argument caused her to hate me and essentially cut me off completely. About a week and a half later she rebound relationships and then cuts off her best friend for telling my ex that she needed to stop giving me so much crap. Then about a month of NC goes by and my ex mentions to me in a FB message that I still have a few of her things she'd like back. I told her later that week I'd drop by and give them to her. On the day of, she forgets she had plans with her new guy and then tells me she's coming over to pick up her stuff. I told her I was busy and that it wasn't a good time for her to come over. (I was changing my car's coolant and so I was outside for this next part). She drives by my house and doesn't stop. Later citing that she didn't want to yell at me and that she didn't have time to waste with her new guy. She then blocked me on FB and never talked to me again. Fast forward to two weeks ago in which her new guy messages me on FB asking to "fix" this issue of me having her stuff. I tell him pick a day and we can exchange things. So my problems are this: -I'm tempted to just mail the items at this point - it's been two weeks and we still haven't come up with a date. -If I get a chance to return her items (via her bf or mail): should I include the photo albums she gave me as gifts? (Cute captioned pictures of her us). I'm not trying to be mean but I'm hoping she'll get the message. I don't really want to throw out the albums, but I know keeping them is no good for moving on. -She broke up with me, however it seems she acts like I broke up with her. (Blocking me, etc, etc.) Even though I went through a lot of emotional pain through the break up, and she's the one on rebound, why does she hide from me rather than me hiding from her? -Finally, a lot of my friends said if their current girlfriends asked them to contact their exes, they probably wouldn't do it and that it would be really awkward. So why does this guy have no issues contacting me? Any and all input would be appreciated! Sorry for the walls of text. D;
TheDovic Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Give her everything buddy. She broke up with you and it would appear you are hurting more at present! You don't need anything in your house reminding you of her, so let her have the memories of your relationship. Might even make her realise what she's lost
gbadboy Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 If you are not over her, you should definately get rid of everything, including albums - anything that won't help you heal, just get rid of it. Instead of giving it to the bf, I would arrange for one of your friends to give the stuff either to the bf or to her directly. Don't do it yourself!
Author placeholder Posted September 13, 2011 Author Posted September 13, 2011 There are times where it hurts every now and then, and the times I do miss her. But I'm definitely doing a LOT better since then. I just kind of want her to get the message without making her hate me more for it. (I know I shouldn't give a damn what she feels about me.) It just sucks we can't even be on talking terms and that she did a complete 180 in personality when she turned 21. I just kind of want some closure on my end. Not this "we broke up, you're nobody to me" thing. It's awkward.
Author placeholder Posted September 13, 2011 Author Posted September 13, 2011 Also, @gbadboy: I plan on doing it myself. I don't want to be like her and hide behind others just to get this over with. It's my issue to deal with and I plan on showing whoever I can stride in with confidence and take care of things. I've come to accept how things are, even if I don't understand it.
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