ShrimpCocktail Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 So, I go out to dinner with this chick... and almost the whole time, she is texting someone else... so I called her out a little at dinner, and I texted here a couple of days afterwards (see below), so now she is pissed off... LOL .. I know what I think, but what everyone elses take? And, how would you respond to her if at all Thanks ShrimpCocktail ----------------------------------------------------------------- Here is the salvo - Me: "I have something to ask you... was I boring or uninteresting to be around the other night? Though somewhat discreet, I couldn't help but notice the "textathon" that went on throughout dinner. All things aside, and I'm sharing this with you because I care... I almost got up and walked out". Her: "Ummm, first of all now you weren't boring. I seriously have a lot going on in my busy life.. In which I had to squeeze in dinner into that schedule that u invited me to. So im not apologizing for handling business when I should have to tending to my business in the first place".
Imageiko Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 I really dislike your phrasing of your text message as it basically invited her to walk all over you and get defensive. I wouldn't stand for texting while she's supposed to be out having a good time with me and I would have firmly told her that's rude and to not waste my time again. Your time is just as valuable as hers. I'm not suggesting getting mad or throwing a fit just calmly saying that you don't put up with disrespect like that and if she's too busy to give you her full attention then you'll make other plans. I'm positive if you had phrased it like that you would have gotten an apology and a let me make it up to you instead of the defensive argumentative text she sent back.
Cypress25 Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 I wouldn't talk to her again. If she's too busy to have dinner without texting, she should have politely declined your invitation. She's basically saying that it's OK to waste your time while she handles more important business.
Zaphod B Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 I hate that. Texting while on a date. No excuse in my books. I think it was extremely rude and inconsiderate of her. She's there on a date with you. Surely she can keep her phone switched off for a couple of hours? People survived without being in permanent telephone contact ten years ago, so they can surely handle it now. You were right to be pissed and you handled it very diplomatically I think.
somedude81 Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 I would never tolerate a girl texting on a date. One or two times is OK. But any more and it becomes rude. I wouldn't hesitate to say something.
sm1tten Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Launch this one. I think you phrased it wrong, too, but now you know that she's "busy tending to [her] business" and is apparently incapable of being polite OR prioritizing her life. I'd have said something during the date, actually. The one time this happened to me, he didn't get a second date because he ASKED me if it would bother me if he kept checking his phone and although I said yes, he kept doing it anyway. It wasn't like he was waiting for an important message. He was checking the scores on a game.
Arikel Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Just wondering what schedule was she referring to? Not to defend texting during dates, I think that's really rude, but from her reply it sounds like she didn't like the timing of the dinner either? Anyway, your text was combative too, and you said you already called her out on it during the dinner? Either way tho, I wouldn't contact each other again, sounds like it just wasnt meant to happen
sm1tten Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Wait, wait. I must have missed the part where you called her out during the dinner... and then you went and called her out AGAIN? No wonder she was defensive. I still think she was rude but I'm curious to know what her response was during the dinner?
Ruby Slippers Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Her: "Ummm, first of all now you weren't boring. I seriously have a lot going on in my busy life.. In which I had to squeeze in dinner into that schedule that u invited me to. So im not apologizing for handling business when I should have to tending to my business in the first place". She sounds like a real bitch. Totally selfish and self-absorbed. Me: "I have something to ask you... was I boring or uninteresting to be around the other night? Though somewhat discreet, I couldn't help but notice the "textathon" that went on throughout dinner. All things aside, and I'm sharing this with you because I care... I almost got up and walked out". But yeah, your text was weak. Why would you assume you're boring and uninteresting to her? She was rude and ill-mannered with you -- and she probably is with everyone else, too. "I'm sharing this with you because I care"? You might as well lie down with a "walk" sign on your back. Do you like particularly bitchy women? Unless you do, I'd drop her like a hot potato.
D-Lish Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 That's just plain rude- and her reaction is just as rude. If a guy spent the night texting other people while on a date with me- it's a deal breaker.
Author ShrimpCocktail Posted September 13, 2011 Author Posted September 13, 2011 Wait, wait. I must have missed the part where you called her out during the dinner... and then you went and called her out AGAIN? No wonder she was defensive. I still think she was rude but I'm curious to know what her response was during the dinner? Yea, at dinner I said like "who is that, whats with all the texting"... her response at dinner was " im texing a girl, i am supposed to go to a birthday party after this.. they are waiting on me"... which turns out to be true, but little did i know that she was also getting texts from her not so "serious" boyfriend... but she agreed to go out with me...
mrgoodcat Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 That's a quite bitchy response to a real concern. However, I don't know your tone of voice.......sometimes it's not what you say, it's how you say. However, unless she is a night-shift nurse, there is no excuse for texting during a date. If she cares for you, she wouldn't do that, IMO.
madjac74 Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 I seriously would have excused myself to go to the bathroom then went to my car and drove home. Then I would have texted her "How is the date going?"
Arikel Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 I don't know why you even bothered to follow up on dinner, that was beyond rude.
coolheadal Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 No text is so important than the date with that special someone. Your with. But she could have been very cold to you and say none of your business. Still it's always a guy that is being text and not a girl friend. That happen to me at a Chinese joint. I should have done like that member said excuse myself and just walk out the front door and drove away.. Of course that would have been rude to do.. I can't see myself doing that though..
Author ShrimpCocktail Posted September 13, 2011 Author Posted September 13, 2011 Just wondering what schedule was she referring to? Not to defend texting during dates, I think that's really rude, but from her reply it sounds like she didn't like the timing of the dinner either? Anyway, your text was combative too, and you said you already called her out on it during the dinner? Either way tho, I wouldn't contact each other again, sounds like it just wasnt meant to happen Get this, schedule is "additional plans" on the same night... I set the date up 3 weeks prior.. I even sent an invitation to her, so if she couldn't make it... she could of opted out!
Ruby Slippers Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 I seriously would have excused myself to go to the bathroom then went to my car and drove home. Then I would have texted her "How is the date going?" Perfection.
soulm8 Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 I seriously would have excused myself to go to the bathroom then went to my car and drove home. Then I would have texted her "How is the date going?" Absolutely! Who does she think she is?
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