Tasha49 Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 I'm stuck in a rut at the moment. I have been talking to a guy I briefly saw (as in met, not dated) in high school the last month or so. He found me on Facebook. He has invited me out to movies and dinners but I kept letting him down nicely. Finally I had to tell him I was with a guy but not committed and was planning to end it so I would feel bad going on date-like scenarios with him until I did end it. He said he understood and was okay with friends. Well now that I have ended it he has brought up the movies and dinners again. I said sure. Well he ended up inviting me out to his place about a week ago. He picked me up. We watched a movie and the whole night he did not make a move on me. I liked this. And last night he asked if I wanted to come watch another movie. I agreed. He kept playfully bumping his hand on my thigh when talking to me a few times. I kept seeing him stare over at me from my peripheral view several times. I was too nervous to meet his gaze. I turned to ask him something about the movie and he ended up going in for a kiss. The kiss was nice. And after a few minutes the moment got heated and he started grinding his *boner* against me. Then he said he knows I "want it." I felt a bit uncomfortable and had to tell him that I couldn't take this any further because I am not like that so soon. I said it very nicely though. He was cool about it and said he respected my decision and in turn respected me a lot. Here is the problem. I had just posted a thread yesterday about attracting men who just want to sleep with me very very early into meeting. And I lose respect for men. I am sure some are decent but just get too excited. But I am confused. He seems like he could be a good guy. He looks like he knows how to treat a lady. But how do I know if he is just after the goods or getting to know me? Should I just see where it goes? I am also very set back because i just ended a year and a half (non-committed) relationship since the guy didn't want a full-on relationship. I loved him a lot and still do even though I plan not to go back. I ended it about two weeks ago. So my question is... would that be too soon to date? I feel like it is kind of disrespectful. What if I end up not knowing how true my feelings really are for this new guy? I don't want to hurt him, if this only ends up being a rebound. I am afraid that my feelings for him will not be serious and just rebound feelings. Any advice? Pleeease?
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