nonameone Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 did people tell their ex about this or just do it (ignore messages and calls).
Nohbody Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 I am just doing it. Some people feel the need to tell. Others don't. It doesn't matter.
stopthemadness Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 did people tell their ex about this or just do it (ignore messages and calls). I didnt tell him anything!! I just one day stopped ALL contact. Man I remember It felt soo good to finally have controll of smthing. I always thought he must have one day said to himself "wow shes really not talking to me" I just love that thought. But really am starting not to care about much of anything to do with him. Am letting go.....it feels good. Dont tell them!!! Just do it!!!
TheUnthoughtKnown Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 I love the idea of telling my ex about it. I'm now, what, 15-16 months NC. I've all but moved on, though I still think of her from time to time. Those are the times I come onto this section, since it was like a second home for me at the time. Anyways, I love the idea of telling her that I purposely avoided all contact with her for the purposes of getting over her but I know she'd pour scorn on that and call me immature. Still, she tried to stay in touch with me and I rejected it because I thought NC was for the best, but I never dreamed I'd get to 16 months without having ever contacted her!
ConfusedT Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 please don't bash me. I HAVE NEVER UNDERSTOOD why people tell someone that they are never going to call them again??? it's hypocritical- im calling you to tell you im not going to call you? ummm, just dont call them then. i've said it out of anger before, but i've never started NC by telling them im going NC, i just have. BUT, i can understand why you are telling someone you want to go NC if they won't leave you alone, that is completely reasonable. But, if you are the one doing all the communication, then just walk away. ACTIONS!!!!
radiodarcy Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 the first time i didn't really tell him - - well i made some reference to "backing off contact" and then continued to contact him until he ignored my attempts to contact him and i went NC. however, after about a week of my doing NC he started contacting me here and there. and i responded each time until i broke NC altogether. to make a long uneventful story short i wound up getting hurt again and had to go back to NC. now that time i made sure to tell him that i was going NC and why because i *really* didn't want to hear from him after that. aaand six months on i haven't.
Thieves Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 I love the idea of telling my ex about it. I'm now, what, 15-16 months NC. I've all but moved on, though I still think of her from time to time. Those are the times I come onto this section, since it was like a second home for me at the time. You are my new hero. 15-16 months?! I was going on 8 months myself. This is officially my inspiration to keep going, thank you.
Thieves Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 To answer the OP's question, I kind of did tell him but didn't tell him (if that makes sense). I think he got the hint when I said it was true a person can't truly be friends with someone they want more with. So, I think it was pretty obvious in the tone of the message that I wasn't going to be talking to him for a long, long while.
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