fetish1980 Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 I don't want to seem like a hounddog, but i have been back in the dating game for a little over 3 months now. Recently, I've gone on several dates with this girl and she's not really acting very affectionate toward me. It's been like 3 or 4 dates and i've made several attempts. We exchange text messages all the time but i'm just not getting the romantic vibe from her and she knows i like her. I'm not even getting so much as a kiss. I try complimenting her and she always kind of makes "fun" a little bit and rolls her eyes and says "whatever". She just makes it very impossible for me to get romantic with. All i've been notcing is that i'm spending a lot of money on her, buying drinks and taking her to restaurants, but she's not giving me any kind of rhythm. It's frustrating and i try asking her what the deal is and she won't even tell me. So maybe its safe to assume that its time to kick her to the curb and move on? Thoughts please. fetish
coolheadal Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 I don't want to seem like a hounddog, but i have been back in the dating game for a little over 3 months now. Recently, I've gone on several dates with this girl and she's not really acting very affectionate toward me. It's been like 3 or 4 dates and i've made several attempts. We exchange text messages all the time but i'm just not getting the romantic vibe from her and she knows i like her. I'm not even getting so much as a kiss. I try complimenting her and she always kind of makes "fun" a little bit and rolls her eyes and says "whatever". She just makes it very impossible for me to get romantic with. All i've been notcing is that i'm spending a lot of money on her, buying drinks and taking her to restaurants, but she's not giving me any kind of rhythm. It's frustrating and i try asking her what the deal is and she won't even tell me. So maybe its safe to assume that its time to kick her to the curb and move on? Thoughts please. fetish Whatever is a rude comment she is giving you like who cares what you say. Man cut her loose. Stop wasting your money on her. She's just going for the ride of enjoyment with you. More like taking advantage of you. Find someone else who appreciated you more. Instead of have a cold women by your-side.
madjac74 Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Are you looking to get laid or do you really like spending time with her? Maybe she is very shy. If you have had more than one date with her then there is obviously some interest on her part
waynesworld Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 So she's giving you the cheek when you try to kiss her? If it's been 3-4 dates, I say move along because she's not that interested. Sorry 'bout that.
phineas Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 You should read a book called the game or double your dating by doc love. You are basically doing everything you shouldn't do when dating women. You dun goofed son. You have two options right now. Friendzone her. Tell her you don't see it going anywhere & you just want to be friends. It makes her powerless. Them, make her help you pick out an outfit for your next date with another woman. Hit on sale's lady (if she's hot) Followed by asking her to help you with your online dating profile. Proceed to treat her like one of the guys & talk about stuff with her like you do with your friends. Date other women.
Author fetish1980 Posted September 12, 2011 Author Posted September 12, 2011 You should read a book called the game or double your dating by doc love. You are basically doing everything you shouldn't do when dating women. You dun goofed son. Okay, I'm interested in this. What do you mean, how did i goof? It's like a damned i you do, damned if you don't situation. If you don't spend money or try to do "free" stuff, you're labled as cheap. And madjac74 As for this girl, no she is not shy at all. All i can tell you all is that she got 3 DUI's and her license is currently suspended. So she gets wild. To top it off, she said that each time she got a DUI, she had hit something. As for me, I try complimenting her and she always kind of makes "fun" a little bit and rolls her eyes and says "whatever". She just makes it very impossible for me to get romantic with. One evening, i came in to her house for a few minutes after dropping her off from a date and she kicked me out after about 10 minutes. Now, i know alot of you are going to assume that i'm after one thing. I mean true, i do want that eventually, but i do like to take things slow. I can't even getting so much as a kiss. she's making it all impossible. All i've gotten was a "goodbye" hug like how you hug people in church, but nothing more. She doesn't even really look at me while hugging me. fetish
Casablanca Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 I'd ask her what she is looking for and if she is interested in more than friends More than likely she just isnt that into you, but what's the worst that can happen?
coolheadal Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Okay, I'm interested in this. What do you mean, how did i goof? It's like a damned i you do, damned if you don't situation. If you don't spend money or try to do "free" stuff, you're labled as cheap. And madjac74 As for this girl, no she is not shy at all. All i can tell you all is that she got 3 DUI's and her license is currently suspended. So she gets wild. To top it off, she said that each time she got a DUI, she had hit something. As for me, I try complimenting her and she always kind of makes "fun" a little bit and rolls her eyes and says "whatever". She just makes it very impossible for me to get romantic with. One evening, i came in to her house for a few minutes after dropping her off from a date and she kicked me out after about 10 minutes. Now, i know alot of you are going to assume that i'm after one thing. I mean true, i do want that eventually, but i do like to take things slow. I can't even getting so much as a kiss. she's making it all impossible. All i've gotten was a "goodbye" hug like how you hug people in church, but nothing more. She doesn't even really look at me while hugging me. fetish WAKE UP OUT YOUR DREAM! Not going the way you had hope and must can clearly see this. Sure we all can see what your telling us but your not seeing it. You think there is hope and she'll be the princess you want her to be. But it's not play out right with your deck of cards. It's your money don't complain that your wasting it on her but you are! Make her your gal friend only and call it the end of chapter #1. If you were to marry this type of women you would be so unhappy! Hope you listen to all us here?
Author fetish1980 Posted September 12, 2011 Author Posted September 12, 2011 whenever i try to have that conversation with her, she just goes goofy. Most of the time she just laughs and her favorite thing to say is " You're an idiot!" I'm kind of wondering myself if she's really interested or just along for a ride and taking advantage. I don't want to come off as too aggressive but damn, let me warm up to where i can set some sort of mood. fetish
madjac74 Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 And madjac74 As for this girl, no she is not shy at all. All i can tell you all is that she got 3 DUI's and her license is currently suspended. So she gets wild. To top it off, she said that each time she got a DUI, she had hit something. OMG I had a relationship with a girl exactly like this after my divorce. She blamed a DUI on someone drugging her drink but after I spent time with her and received numerous calls to come get her at the bar, I knew she was full of ****. She also cheated on me several times and claimed the "I was too drunk to remember". Get away as fast as you can! Get her drunk and bang her first. You deserve that much for your time.
phineas Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Okay, I'm interested in this. What do you mean, how did i goof? It's like a damned i you do, damned if you don't situation. If you don't spend money or try to do "free" stuff, you're labled as cheap. And madjac74 As for this girl, no she is not shy at all. All i can tell you all is that she got 3 DUI's and her license is currently suspended. So she gets wild. To top it off, she said that each time she got a DUI, she had hit something. As for me, I try complimenting her and she always kind of makes "fun" a little bit and rolls her eyes and says "whatever". She just makes it very impossible for me to get romantic with. One evening, i came in to her house for a few minutes after dropping her off from a date and she kicked me out after about 10 minutes. Now, i know alot of you are going to assume that i'm after one thing. I mean true, i do want that eventually, but i do like to take things slow. I can't even getting so much as a kiss. she's making it all impossible. All i've gotten was a "goodbye" hug like how you hug people in church, but nothing more. She doesn't even really look at me while hugging me. fetish How old are you & how old is the woman? The economy sucks. Things are expensive. Does she even have a job? You know what I do now for first dates? I don't date. I hang out with them doing something I was already going to do & they have the choice to join me or not. Clothes shopping (we can walk the mall & i'll buy her a frozen yogurt or something cheap) ice skating, walk along the river / bike trail ect. A woman who is really into you won't care where you go as long as she is spending time with you. I'd make this woman my wing-woman & not bother to clean my house when she showed up. like I do with my other friends. LOL!
madjac74 Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Btw when I first saw the title of this thread, I thought it had something to do with circumcision :/
Author fetish1980 Posted September 12, 2011 Author Posted September 12, 2011 i'm definitely not trying to make a girl like this my woman. trust me. i'm not even ready for a relationship like that. I just got out of an 8 year long relationship in February. Even if i was ready for a relationship, it wouldn't be with her. I do wanna BANG, but i didn't want to offend anyone on here. and phineas, i'm 31 and she's 30. And yes she has a job. fetish
Kindaconfused_77 Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Sounds like she is humoring you for the fun/free meals and company, though she may not actually be romantically interested in you at all. As others have mentioned, friendzone her, drop the dates and if she is truly interested she will find a way to let you know and make a move,if not, all the better for you to stop wasting time and move on to the next. Also, contrary to popular belief you dont have to spend ungodly amounts of cash on dates and dinners to meet women, join some kind of social activity that will also be good for yourself - a gym, dancing classes, some sports activity group... you will meet women and make new friands (who in turn might lead you to meet THEIR female friends), and get to interact and chat in a natural manner without the pressure of a dinner-date. I was single for over 10 years and a few months after joining an inline skating group, met my current girl. It just happened naturally, and I for sure aint no skilled pick up artist, "player" or even experienced in the dating world at all, I've only ever had one other GF before.
coolheadal Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 How old are you & how old is the woman? The economy sucks. Things are expensive. Does she even have a job? You know what I do now for first dates? I don't date. I hang out with them doing something I was already going to do & they have the choice to join me or not. Clothes shopping (we can walk the mall & i'll buy her a frozen yogurt or something cheap) ice skating, walk along the river / bike trail ect. A woman who is really into you won't care where you go as long as she is spending time with you. I'd make this woman my wing-woman & not bother to clean my house when she showed up. like I do with my other friends. LOL! Wow your good, but your right things are expensive like crazy! I am not saying I am cheap but let's go some where exciting like the beach!
phineas Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Wow your good, but your right things are expensive like crazy! I am not saying I am cheap but let's go some where exciting like the beach! I'm almost 40, got child support payments & a mortgage. I just want to get to the point where we can cook dinner together & watch a movie / take a walk ect. Why spend money on a woman who is most likely going out with other men or even sleeping with an ex / FWB while she figures out if she likes me?
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