mike588 Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 (edited) I've been reading alot of posts about rebounds. I'm confused on who's a rebounder and who's the reboundee? I've made several other posts on my situation, short and to the point. My now ex g/f of 10 mnths left me to go back to her ex b/f of 14 months. Questions: When she broke up with him then several weeks later WE started dating: What was I if anything at that point?? What was she? rebounder, reboundee?? Now that she's back with him: What is she?? " " What was/am I ?? " " Other than a fool. If anything what is HE now?? I always hear that rebounds don't work long,,, so if she's rebounded/ rebounder?? with him does it that apply when going back to an ex(not working long?) Is she rebounding?? Thanks for your comments and explaining this. I do appreciate it. Edited September 12, 2011 by mike588
Dark Phoenix Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 The rebounder is the individual who jumps into another relationship without healing properly (in this case, her). The reboundee is the innocent victim who gets played by the rebounder (you). After your first relationship is established, every relationship after can be considered a rebound relationship. Yes, typically they do not last for very long. But every rebound relationship has the potential to become long term.
TheDovic Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 The rebounder is the individual who jumps into another relationship without healing properly (in this case, her). The reboundee is the innocent victim who gets played by the rebounder (you). After your first relationship is established, every relationship after can be considered a rebound relationship. Yes, typically they do not last for very long. But every rebound relationship has the potential to become long term. What he said
M2155 Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Mike588 was the reboundee and you already know the same thing happened to me. My ex "rebounded with his ex" if you can call it that. To me she is still the original ex. I'm the reboundee. She had way more pull. Looking back now I wonder if he started talking to me before he officially gave her the ax the first time:mad: I don't know how long they were together or how quickly he moved to me, I know she was posting cutsey stuff on FB very early after I met him and then she was gone. It was when she reappeared that he dumped me. That almost makes me feel better if he hasn't had anytime alone to fix his issues. It may be wrong for me to wish this on anyone, but I don't want them to last. I know, I know that's bad. I should want happiness for all.
Author mike588 Posted September 13, 2011 Author Posted September 13, 2011 Thanks M2155,, it got alittle confusing with all the rebounder/reboundee stuff especially in the situation we have been in. I too hope it doesn't work,,, I can't help but wonder if it will work (3rd time back to him) I don't want her back,, I just want the satisfaction of saying, Screw You if,and only if she comes back.
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