ronaldo9999 Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 I just had a few topics I needed some views on. What do you guys think about labelling 'relationships' and how does it progress? First you meet someone, then start 'talking', then you start 'seeing them' to see if you click? If you've gone on a couple of dates (dinners, movies, etc) and not been that physical (just physical flirting, maybe cuddling), would you label that as 'dating'? Or is that too strong a word? How long do you think does the 'seeing each other' phase lasts before 'dating' begins? And eventually how long till its official? I have this unexplained urge to usually 'label' these stages and sometimes that creates pressure, and want to know how to get rid of this habbit? Is this insecurity?
Cypress25 Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 For the love of god. Do you really do this? You're creating stages that don't even exist. Talking? Seeing each other? I mean, seriously. It's a sad state of affairs when you think "dating" is too strong a word to describe people who have gone on a few dates. Simplify your life. Try this: dating --> relationship --> married. That's much easier, isn't it?
coolheadal Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 For the love of god. Do you really do this? You're creating stages that don't even exist. Talking? Seeing each other? I mean, seriously. It's a sad state of affairs when you think "dating" is too strong a word to describe people who have gone on a few dates. Simplify your life. Try this: dating --> relationship --> married. That's much easier, isn't it? Let the OP label his life this way, you can't change OP mindset. I just go with the flow. If the flow breaks then you start all over again with a new person.
Author ronaldo9999 Posted September 13, 2011 Author Posted September 13, 2011 I never thought about it this way, usually go with the flow type of thing. But recently I was with a girl who kept putting these labels for example: "Oh X and Y, they're not really going out they're just seeing each other" or "Oh X and Y, they're not dating they're just seeing each other" etc and that really got me thinking if this is actually how majority of the people think?
veggirl Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 I never thought about it this way, usually go with the flow type of thing. But recently I was with a girl who kept putting these labels for example: "Oh X and Y, they're not really going out they're just seeing each other" or "Oh X and Y, they're not dating they're just seeing each other" etc and that really got me thinking if this is actually how majority of the people think? I think the girl you are talking about was equating "dating" with "in a relationship" IMO you date, then you enter a relationship. Those are the 2 stages, unless you are "just friends" I guess, lol.
Cypress25 Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 I think the girl you are talking about was equating "dating" with "in a relationship" Or maybe she was trying to find a polite way of saying "they're f*ck buddies." If someone is hesitant to say they're dating, it's because they're not going on actual dates, they're just having sex.
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