Audrina Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship and he's just started a new job. At his new position he's been showing people pictures of us and he is CONTINUALLY told that I can do better than him and reminded how lucky he is to have someone like me. Part of me feels like this must make him feel like crap, because it makes me feel like crap. I want to shake them and say how dare they, fine, I have a good career and I'm pretty to some, but why do people always have to say things like this? Give me his attitude, kindness, caring attitude, the way he makes me laugh any day. I don't want better than him because I don't think there is much better than him. Why do people feel the need to say these things to him?
tman666 Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Most likely they're just jealous... Haters gonna hate.
2sure Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 I think that for some men, that is just the kind of thing they to say to each other. A way for them to tell him you seem like a great girl. If your bf isnt offended by it, whats the difference. Its just a casual remark when shown a photo. If he is offended...he can always tell them :Its HER thats lucky. Why would they argue, they have never even met you?
sm1tten Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 It doesn't sound like something that I would take seriously. It's not like they can make an informed opinion anyway, and people say things like that all the time just to kind of tease someone. Does it bother him?
Author Audrina Posted September 12, 2011 Author Posted September 12, 2011 I don't know if it bothers him or not really, and I can easily ask him, but when he brings it up to me it sounds like he needs a little reassurance that I care about him and I think he's the most amazing man around - which I always offer him and remind him that I consider myself the lucky one in the relationship.
coolheadal Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 I don't know if it bothers him or not really, and I can easily ask him, but when he brings it up to me it sounds like he needs a little reassurance that I care about him and I think he's the most amazing man around - which I always offer him and remind him that I consider myself the lucky one in the relationship. Then do it make it so as he's number one in your heart now! Do what ever it takes!
insaneinthebrain Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Well.. you need to understand that sometimes people just see the physical.... THese people dont know everything else you have to offer. Wtich is why i learned to but out of peoples relationships, unless there is some sort of abuse. The most i will ever say is i am happy your happy..!! .....you say that you are good looking to some..... .. My spider sense tells me that you dont think that your good looking.... you might have some self esteem issues...... would that be the case ? As far as he is concerened, i think that he is being a dumb ass if he questions your relationship just because he can do better. People who think that they can do better are never happy with what they have, and they dont appreciate it either...... I hope he wont make you go thru too much crap.
sigurpol Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 I don't know if it bothers him or not really, and I can easily ask him, but when he brings it up to me it sounds like he needs a little reassurance that I care about him and I think he's the most amazing man around - which I always offer him and remind him that I consider myself the lucky one in the relationship. I'd probably look for a little reassurance too since my mind wanders a lot. But that's good that you're able to reassure him that way! As far as the coworkers? Jealously with a dab of stupidity. Hopefully it doesn't bug him too much.
grkBoy Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship and he's just started a new job. At his new position he's been showing people pictures of us and he is CONTINUALLY told that I can do better than him and reminded how lucky he is to have someone like me. Part of me feels like this must make him feel like crap, because it makes me feel like crap. I want to shake them and say how dare they, fine, I have a good career and I'm pretty to some, but why do people always have to say things like this? Give me his attitude, kindness, caring attitude, the way he makes me laugh any day. I don't want better than him because I don't think there is much better than him. Why do people feel the need to say these things to him? I think some might be shallow, but I wouldn't be surprised if many are skeptical because you two are doing long-distance. I know when I started meeting some long-distant women (before I met my now fiance), my colleagues thought I was being strange. They felt that I live in a major city full of people, yet I'm looking at women who live very far away (Pennsylvania, California, and Canada even). I think those who had it easier meeting ideal mates in their neck of the woods will always be skeptical of friends who look to long distance, like they're desperate for someone and thus will take anything. I wouldn't "remind" him. If he's ignoring the friends, then who cares what they say? I'll bet money if you moved to his neck of the woods and are now not "long distance", they would all say to him what a catch you are.
todd Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 If I was your boyfriend I would probably take it as a complement. A bunch of guys saying my girl could do better then me, yet I am with her! Sounds like I did good!
Casablanca Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 I think that for some men, that is just the kind of thing they to say to each other. A way for them to tell him you seem like a great girl. If your bf isnt offended by it, whats the difference. Its just a casual remark when shown a photo. If he is offended...he can always tell them :Its HER thats lucky. Why would they argue, they have never even met you? THIS...my friends and I are like this.... Hell, one of my best friends, a female, I showed her a picture of my last gf and she responded "HAS SHE MET YOU!!!???? WOW, SHE'S PRETTY!"....it was obviously a joke...not the pretty part, but the, has she met you
Imageiko Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 If I was your boyfriend I would probably take it as a complement. A bunch of guys saying my girl could do better then me, yet I am with her! Sounds like I did good! Agreed, this is good for you trust me. A little reminder that he's got something good and to continue to treat you well. If you're happy with him that's all that matters.
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