Why do women tell their girlfriends if they think their boyfriend is unattractive?

[Content]

You hear it on these fourms all the time where a women says my girlfriendfs thinks my Man is not attractive but i do, ive seen it with sisters growing up

 

With Men we never tell our friend if we think his girlfriend/wife is unattractive it would be so disrespectful and may lead to a confrontation

 

Why do women feel the need to tell their girflriends if they think her boyfrfiend/husband is unattratcive?

 

Is it just in womens nature to gossip and say whatever is in their head with no filter?

[carhill]

The type of women who do this, IME, tend to be drama queens.

[carhill]

I've been frankly shocked about what some women discuss regarding their marriages and marital partners and what they think of other's partners. Heck, my best friend probably knew more about my M than I did and I never spoke a word of it to him.

[Audrina]

I don't expect my girlfriends to find my boyfriend attractive, all that matters is that he's attractive to me, not those other women. My friends may say to me 'I don't find your boyfriend attractive' and I always say that's fine, everyone has different tastes.

 

I think that there's a difference between women who say this and realize that it's not important that other people find their significant other attractive, as long as they do, and the kind that say this kind of thing to stir the pot.

[Cypress25]

I'm a woman and I would never say that to any of my friends. Usually I don't find their boyfriends attractive, but I don't say it out loud. That would be mean and pointless. It doesn't matter if I think my friend's boyfriend is unattractive, I'm not the one dating him.

[coolheadal]

How about when they say "I don't think it's right for you?" You both don't have much in common. Why would such a girl friend say that to her. BS Those girls don't even have any relationships going on. Those that do are just really shallow inside!

[grkBoy]

I don't think there's anything wrong if a friend tells his/her friend that he/she thinks their boyfriend/girlfriend isn't attractive in his/her eyes. It's their opinion, and the ones who would criticize someone else's SO are only looking at that person in their own attraction standards. Plus I get a kick out of those who tell others how they could "do better" or something...but they are chronically single and can't land this "perfect person" they think they are entitled to.

 

NOW...if a man or woman were to tell his/her friends that he thinks his/her own SO isn't attractive, that's just plain wrong. I've heard stories of wives/girls getting together for drinks and talking loads of smack about their men. They carry the attitude that somehow their men should feel blessed that a woman even gave him the time of day and literally have little to no respect for their men.

 

Is it any wonder when those women find their boyfriends/husbands cheating on them?

[Cypress25]

Is it any wonder when those women find their boyfriends/husbands cheating on them?

 

Yes. There is no excuse for cheating on your SO. Break up or get a divorce if you're so unhappy with your partner.

[sm1tten]

I usually keep my opinions on the looks to myself, but none of my friends would ask anyway. I mean, who does that outside of high school?

[grkBoy]

Yes. There is no excuse for cheating on your SO. Break up or get a divorce if you're so unhappy with your partner.

 

I agree.

 

Unfortunately too much of the world doesn't...and they'll decide it's easier to try to have their cake and eat it too as opposed to being logical.

[LexiB]

I have never experienced any woman just outright telling a friend that she thinks the friend's *boyfriend* is unattractive.

 

Now a woman may know her friends don't find her bf appealing, but I'd bet that in 99% of those cases, that knowledge was either gained by inference (i.e., knowing her friends' taste in men) or during discussions had amongst the friends LONG BEFORE the guy became the BF. If a girl meets a guy while hanging out with her friends at a bar for instance, it's not at all uncommon for the women to dish about the guy when he leaves their presence - the good, the bad, & the ugly. If the same guy eventually becomes that girl's bf, then yeah, she'll know how her friends really feel about him. <<shrugs>>

 

Personally, even in the latter scenario, I'll typically refrain from telling a friend that I think her suitor is unattractive if I can see she's already smitten. No point in bursting her bubble.