Khazkhaz Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 My boyfriend is a year and a half older than me and has just moved schools We've been boyfriend and girlfriend for almost six months now However, recently I've been developing feelings for his younger brother and I don't know what to do. I think it's partly because he is in my school and my boyfriend is not. His brother is friendly to me and the times we've talked while waiting for my bf have been great because he's nice. I can't blank my boyfriend as his brother sometimes asks me if I want to send a message to him, and I won't break up with my boyfriend (Because of my feelings which I won't act on) because I'll miss him more and only see his younger brother. I can't ignore his younger brother as he's in my school, on my bus and he's around when I go to my boyfriend's house. I wiah I don't like him anymore, I won't act on it because he's my boyfriend's brother and he's just friendly, and neither will I tell him. But what do I do?
Professor X Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 But what do I do? You break up with your BF of course. You don't care for him anymore (sorry, but not breaking with him just cause you'll miss him isn't good enough reason to stay). Even though you sound like your age is young, you do act maturely (by not acting on your emotions), but still, you have lost your touch for your BF so you just have to let it go. And even after doing so, don't try and date his brother. On the positive side, you've only been together for almost 6 months, so not to long.
gaius Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Normally I'm all for being selfish but whatever you do please don't date or sleep with the younger brother. If you do your current BF will find out and it very well might destroy their relationship, and family is very important in life. Just try to stay away from him as best you can and bear the feelings until you both move on in life and don't see each other as much.
Osiris1234 Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 FIRMLY tell your boyfriends younger brother that nothing can happen between you two.
Author Khazkhaz Posted September 13, 2011 Author Posted September 13, 2011 You break up with your BF of course. You don't care for him anymore (sorry, but not breaking with him just cause you'll miss him isn't good enough reason to stay). I meant take a break from him * To see if that helps get over his younger brother and to figure my feelings out. Not break up as I would not act on my feelings and his brother probably doesn't feel the same way
Author Khazkhaz Posted September 13, 2011 Author Posted September 13, 2011 so basically you want to keep him dangling on a string while you explore your feelings for his brother? how utterly disrespectful and selfish. its easy, you either break up and set your bf free, because its not his problem you can't be emotionally faithful, or stay with your bf and grow up. My boyfriend loves me and I love him back. I thought that a bit of space would help me realize that I don't want his brother, I'm just missing him. And a break would help me get over his brother quickly. Do you think giving him some space is wrong? (I don't want to go for his brother) If I break off my boyfriend for a trivial little crush, won't it be more painful than a break?
rafallus Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 I never understood this "let's take a break" thing. Giving sb proper breathing space should be a given in any relationship. If you take a break, are you allowed to see other people? And if so, then is he?
Chi townD Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Do not do ANYTHING with your boyfriends brother! That has bad news written all over it. Do not break up with your boyfriend and then start dating the brother, that has bad news written all over it. Do not "take a break" and do something with the brother because, "we were on a break! It didn't count!" That has bad news written all over it.
nofool4u Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Do you think giving him some space is wrong? (I don't want to go for his brother) he isn't the one asking for space. you are. and what is the point of this space to see if you can get over his brother if you don't want to go for him? it doesn't make sense. you aren't being honest here. you want the space to explore your feelings one way or the other. to see if you want more, or to see if you don't. the "space" is for you, not your bf.
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