Have I done the right thing

[lmxfour123]

Really upset and need your opinions...PLEASE HELP

 

I really really help on this because I am totally confused and don’t really have anyone I can really talk to...I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year now and from quite early on we both agreed that this was different and that we were definitely going to end up married with kids the lot.

We have agreed not to rush things though and will be starting to save up soon for our mortgage deposit (this will take about 18 months though

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again no rush). We don’t see each other every night but about 5 out of 7 and we speak on the nights we don’t see each other although we don’t text constantly as we both work and my boyfriend isn’t in to texting all the time....with anyone not just me.We get on really well, have a laugh and like doing the same things. I get on very well with his family who love me too. He has never had a serious relationship before and is 3 year younger than me at 24. Now he has always been used to doing what he likes and is very spoiled. Since we’ve been together he has let me down last minute for nights in several times to go out drinking with friends but he always make its up to me and i give in although I don’t like him treating me like that I hope he’ll grow out of it.

However, this weekend he has done it again but this time he didn’t even call me, we where meant to meet at my house at 10pm after work and he never showed, didn’t answer his phone or texts

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I just left it. He called me at 5am and I said I didn’t want to speak to him as I’

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sick of it and I hung up and put my phone on silent. When I woke up I’d had 20 missed calls. I tried to call him but his battery had gone. Now I know from his mum that he had stayed at a friends that night and he came home the next day got changed and went straight back out until midnight last night and he has now gone to work...without charging his phone again!

I only ignored him as I want him to realise I won’t put up with that and hope he’ll learn a lesson and change but I’

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worried now that he won’t and he’ll just want to split up because I’ve bruised his ego by putting my foot down for once. I don’t expect him to be perfect but at least a phone call should have been made early on and he needs to realise this. To be honest I have been too soft on him during our whole relationship and he very much

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wears the pant but I’

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not perfect myself and am not a walkover, but I love him to death and for the first time really thought he was ‘the one’.

Will he realise he wants me or will he leave me heartbroken?

 

Please help

[Besmy]

Well, I don't know the whole story but maybe you overreacted a little bit? I would have answered his calls. I suggest you call him or meet him and be nice and caring as always. I understand you wanted to make your point but sometimes we make it at the very wrong time.

I cannot imagine him wanting to break up for this incident.

Cheer up!!! A hug.

[lmxfour123]

Thanks Besmy.

I know I do think I may have overreacted...I have the tendency to do this sometimes because sometimes I live in a world where I think everything should be perfect but I know that's not real life!

I have texted him over the weekend saying how much he's hurt me but according to his mother his battery has gone so i'm hoping when he gets home from work he will get in touch with me...in the meantime there nothing i can do.

I just hope he doesn't want to leave things or not even try to save us as this would nreak my heart