macieevans80 Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Every time I talk to my husband , he just does not listen. This has been irritating me a lot. Just few days back I found a site called Wisie For Relationships which provided some really useful relationship advice. Reading the blogs and articles on the site made me realize that I have to change my way of communicating and why I should be calm and relaxed before starting any discussion with my partner. I would like to know do you also face this problem and what you do when your partner does not listen.
Mack05 Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 (edited) Macie I think bad communication is the main reason for sooooooooooooo many failed relationships in life. I believe if you share the same core values, love, honesty, compassion, empathy and trust, that you have enough there to make any relationship work. Yet still relationships fail. Why? Bad communication. It is my biggest achilles heel in truth, my biggest flaw. Too many times in the past, I would say hurtful things in heat of the moment (in arguments) that I put absolutely no thought into. When we would make up, I would forget what I said, but the person who is at the end of the hurtful comment holds onto it A LOT longer. This kind of behaviour erodes at your relationship and if changes are not made, you end up losing everything. Of course you can have bad communication and have no arguments take place. You can be drifting apart without even realising it. Great communication is an art form. It's something none of us will ever truly master in my opinion. It is something we (both partners) should continually work on in relationships over weeks/months/years. In my last relationship both my ex and myself communicated horribly. I am now in a new relationship with an amazing woman and I am determined to learn from my past mistakes, as I already know I never want to lose her. She too wants to take time and make sure we are communicating correctly. We have both bought books on relationship communication. The one's I bought are -> 1) "Healthy Relationship: 92 Affirmations For Turning A Bad Relationship Into A Better Relationship Without Needing Relationship Counselling!" 2) "Why Can't You Read My Mind? Overcoming the 9 Toxic Thought Patterns that Get in the Way of a Loving Relationship" 3) "Communication Miracles for Couples: Easy and Effective Tools to Create More Love and Less Conflict" Hopefully your husband see's the problem too and is willing to work with you on this. I hope it works out for you Macie. Edited September 12, 2011 by Mack05
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