NordicStripes Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Hi guys, just wanted to hear what you think: 1. Relationship of 3 years, living together for about the same time 2. Boyfriend only worked for 1 year, rest of the time I was the one bringing home the bacon 3. Boyfriend stayed at home but didn't do anything at home 4. I got frustrated, picked fights constantly 5. We fought constantly, he started going away to his friends about 4/5 times a week. 6. I felt abandoned, more frustrated, so more fights 7. Boyfriend started working in a café with bad reputation (sluts etc... working there) after I begged him to work anywhere but there 8. He broke up with me because 'he didn't love me anymore' 9. He slept with one of his slutty colleagues only a couple of days after we had broken up, and he did this a couple of times 10. He let me know he made a huge mistake, still loves me, I'm the love of his life, etc etc... 11. I told him that I no longer want a relationship like we had: I want a stable man, with a job, who cares about me, takes me out, treats me well,... plus, how can I even forgive him for sleeping with someone else immediately after he broke things off with me? 12. He wants to become the perfect man for me, because he's sure that I'm the love of his life and he doesn't want to lose me. He regrets very badly that he slept with that girl. I'm pretty much disgusted by that. 13. I'm moving abroad in a week. He's looking for a job in the same country/area so he can be near. Even though I told him that this wouldn't be a guarantee of us getting back together. I also mention that if we would ever get back together, I want couples-counselling. 14. We went out a couple of times (for me more as friends, for him more as dates apparently). Last time, we kissed. He was really happy, I think I might have made a mistake. I told him this DOES NOT mean we are back together. 15. He's been slacking off in looking for a job, I know he's been at his mates house every night to play cards etc... 16. We were supposed to meet today, but now he can't because 'he want to work hard this week and has a lot of email to send'. Plus he wants to see me as close to my departing-date (next week wednesday) as possible. I told him that I have a very busy week, and other, more important people to say goodbye to. 17. I'm not sure what I'm feeling. I'm disgusted by what he did. If he hadn't slept with someone else so soon, I probably already would have taken him back. Even though he says he did it because he felt so lost and he wanted to forget about me that way, still find it repulsive. One one hand I'm done with this, on the other hand, when I see him I still see some of the guy I was sure I'd spend my life with. And we really were good together most of the time. And I'm scared I'll make the wrong decision. Should I give this another shot?
sleepykitten Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 I think you know deep down...easy to say no dont do it, but i know where i was a few weeks after the break up, 3 mths on-and your guy sounds like mine in terms of sleeping with someone else so soon, the money stuff, lack of ambition etc. Only you can truely answer it though. Dont stay with him just because you are scared of being on your own, your still really young, maybe have some time out re evaluate. See if he fights for you and makes a huge effort-actions not just words.
Besmy Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Personally I would have my doubts.... I think you know you deserve sooooo much better, don't you? What does it mean that he will not see you now before you leave? I would expect him to be wanting to see you every day. It doesn't make sense to me. I wish you to meet you the man of your dreams in your new place. A hug.
CarrieT Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 No way I would take him back. He used you for three years and is looking to continue the easy ride.
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