coolheadal Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 I've seen to many women go from shy look to the sexy lean in images? Like you look up or place your hand on your side and stick out parts of your body features to get men to notice you. I hate when women do this makes them look cheap and available. Why can they pose a nice image and get a guy attention.
grkBoy Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 I shoot photography, and honestly it's amazing how easily a photo can unflatter someone. You pose oddly, the camera is a strange angle, you're a strange angle, etc. I don't see an issue with men or women posing for photos when they want to look good. Especially in online dating you want to look your best without being a total lie. I just think it gets out of hand when it goes from a nice pose to total "attention whoring".
LoveandSuch Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Agree, the pic in which someone is turned to the side with the butt stuck out and chest out is silly!
todd Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Also agree.. It seems like it has taken over any image you see people posting on facebook anymore. I just shake my head when I see it pop up...
carhill Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 My observation is that they are wishing to attract a certain segment of the male population, one I'm not a member of. I acknowledge that and move on. Judging them is a fruitless pursuit, IMO. It's their path.
Pasttense Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Could someone post some photos of this look? (I'm not quite sure what you are talking about)
Trimmer Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 My observation is that they are wishing to attract a certain segment of the male population, one I'm not a member of. I acknowledge that and move on. Judging them is a fruitless pursuit, IMO. It's their path. That's pretty much my attitude. If it's not something I'm attracted to, I don't wring my hands and wish for them to change, I am thankful that they put it right there out front like a big flashing sign, so I don't waste any more energy considering them. What good is it fretting over "why can't they just be different?" Now, that doesn't mean I'm not mystified about the appeal of certain fads (my very favorite: the "trout pout") but I really just don't care...
Author coolheadal Posted September 12, 2011 Author Posted September 12, 2011 Nice Girl You pose with a nice smile either sitting down or standing up. Nasty Girl You pose with a sexy look using your body parts the chest and behind sticks out to highlight what you want the average man to notice about you. Almost what your packing under your tight dress or one piece outfit. Usually wearing pointed heel shoes. Just like saying come and get me you animal! I am so hot for you! Stuff like that. You can't miss they type of poses they're appearing more and more now. That Sexy Lean pose.
verhrzn Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Nice Girl You pose with a nice smile either sitting down or standing up. Nasty Girl You pose with a sexy look using your body parts the chest and behind sticks out to highlight what you want the average man to notice about you. Almost what your packing under your tight dress or one piece outfit. Usually wearing pointed heel shoes. Just like saying come and get me you animal! I am so hot for you! Stuff like that. You can't miss they type of poses they're appearing more and more now. That Sexy Lean pose. Isn't this a case of "damned if you do, damned if you don't?" Most of my online photos are me just smiling, standing somewhere (no special pose, no different camera angle) and I'm told that's why I'm NOT getting men's attention... That my photos aren't attractive enough, don't catch enough attention. It's the age old problem of women being told they must be a certain level of physically attractive in order to capture a man's attention, but never told exactly where the line between "frumpy" "boring" "sexy and demure" and "sexy and trashy" is, so women go TOO far in the opposite direction. And honestly, you're saying it's bad for a woman to be sexy in her photos?? Don't you WANT a woman who is sexual and confident?
Author coolheadal Posted September 12, 2011 Author Posted September 12, 2011 Isn't this a case of "damned if you do, damned if you don't?" Most of my online photos are me just smiling, standing somewhere (no special pose, no different camera angle) and I'm told that's why I'm NOT getting men's attention... That my photos aren't attractive enough, don't catch enough attention. It's the age old problem of women being told they must be a certain level of physically attractive in order to capture a man's attention, but never told exactly where the line between "frumpy" "boring" "sexy and demure" and "sexy and trashy" is, so women go TOO far in the opposite direction. And honestly, you're saying it's bad for a woman to be sexy in her photos?? Don't you WANT a woman who is sexual and confident? I don't like seeing these type of images myself it just makes them look cheap. I am sure you pose is very good with your smile. What's wrong with a nice smile to get that guy for you. I don't understand why certain women do these dirty type of poses. Not only grown women doing it all of them from pre-teen to adult. I think the parents shouldn't allow it if they knew what their kid was doing online.
verhrzn Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 I don't like seeing these type of images myself it just makes them look cheap. I am sure you pose is very good with your smile. What's wrong with a nice smile to get that guy for you. I don't understand why certain women do these dirty type of poses. Because a nice smile is not enough. Pictures are heavily judged in the online world, and (sorry to say but it's true) guys can be extremely judgmental of a girl. A nice smile when put up alongside a sexy-posing hot girl is very rarely gonna win (unless the girl with the nice smile is so incredibly amazing she could be wearing a paper sack and be sexy.)
OnyxSnowfall Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 I don't like seeing these type of images myself it just makes them look cheap. I am sure you pose is very good with your smile. What's wrong with a nice smile to get that guy for you. I don't understand why certain women do these dirty type of poses. Not only grown women doing it all of them from pre-teen to adult. I think the parents shouldn't allow it if they knew what their kid was doing online. Because it's what garners ACTUAL attention. While there may be a large majority of men who do NOT prefer the sultry lusty pictures, the ones that do are likely the ones that are more vocal / assertive in general. IF more men were blatantly chasing after the tamer things, I'm pretty sure females would begin to adapt and try to fit into what seems to "please" them. People aren't really considering what kind of people they are attracting, just whether or not they ARE seeming to attract. Kind of hard to believe men like you for you when it's never engulfed... and many people are impatient and don't want to be alone etc etc, so many other incentives.
Author coolheadal Posted September 12, 2011 Author Posted September 12, 2011 I've notice this myself with the women I had met about 2 weeks ago in the real world. I see she's on FB. In 2010 she posted a FB wall with a nice image along with what she was looking for in life. In 2011 she posted another FB wall under a more sexy name just changed to letters in her first name. That post image is that sexy lean with the behind sticking out over a kitchen table. Wearing black body suite type with jewelry chain belt around the waist. Wearing high hell shoes and then there is the stare smile to round it off. Of course there where 30 men friends vs 2 under the nice image. So I can see men like to see a sexy side of a women than just a nice smile only. Like she has alter ego going on inside her mind!
NXS Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Because a nice smile is not enough. Pictures are heavily judged in the online world, and (sorry to say but it's true) guys can be extremely judgmental of a girl. A nice smile when put up alongside a sexy-posing hot girl is very rarely gonna win (unless the girl with the nice smile is so incredibly amazing she could be wearing a paper sack and be sexy.) It depends on a lot of different factors like age, body type and what you're looking for. If you're a 20 year old hot girl then you'll get away with these types of poses but you'll attract guys that are looking for 20 year old hot girls. Attractiveness works both ways, only a small percentage of either gender are really that good looking. Yes sexy photos are more attractive but if they're done in a subtle way then it's more classy. A nice smile is important, if you wear something nice but not too revealing and show your sexuality in a subtle way it's very attractive. Posing in a suggestive manner just looks trashy in my opinion and doesn't show confidence at all.
Cypress25 Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 I'd say it depends on what a girl is wearing in said photo. Her clothes reveal more about her intention than her pose does. You might think she's standing a certain way to get male attention, but that may not be the case. For example, hands on hips: this is meant to make her arms look thin. Standing with her shoulders back: this makes her stand up straight and keeps her from slouching. Chest pushed forward: she's probably pulling in her stomach so she won't look fat. And heels of any kind have a tendency to make your butt stick out; she's probably not doing it on purpose. A lot of women are insecure about their weight, especially when the camera adds ten pounds. You'd be amazed at the lengths women go to just to appear skinny in photos. She may even be a victim of circumstance. Funny story: I was posing with my friends for a group photo at a party. I was not dressed slutty at all: jeans and a T-shirt. Just as the camera clicked, my friend (standing behind me) dropped an ice cube down the back of my shirt. Naturally, I reacted by pushing my hips forward, which forced my shoulders back. Consequently, in the photo, it looks like I'm sticking my boobs out. Moral of the story: don't judge someone by a photo.
verhrzn Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 It depends on a lot of different factors like age, body type and what you're looking for. If you're a 20 year old hot girl then you'll get away with these types of poses but you'll attract guys that are looking for 20 year old hot girls. Attractiveness works both ways, only a small percentage of either gender are really that good looking. Yes sexy photos are more attractive but if they're done in a subtle way then it's more classy. A nice smile is important, if you wear something nice but not too revealing and show your sexuality in a subtle way it's very attractive. Posing in a suggestive manner just looks trashy in my opinion and doesn't show confidence at all. But "being sexy but in a subtle way" is incredibly vague. How in the world do you do that?? What does it mean? What does it look like? Part of the reason women post trashy sexy pictures is because they know how to do it (show skin and smirk.) I mean, what's "too" revealing as opposed to just "nice"? An inch of cleavage? No cleavage? But then women worry that it's too frumpy. Trying to negotiate the terrain of "sexy but not TOO sexy" really, really sucks as a woman, so perhaps guys like the OP could just cut some of the "trashy" women some slack.
Author coolheadal Posted September 12, 2011 Author Posted September 12, 2011 I'd say it depends on what a girl is wearing in said photo. Her clothes reveal more about her intention than her pose does. You might think she's standing a certain way to get male attention, but that may not be the case. For example, hands on hips: this is meant to make her arms look thin. Standing with her shoulders back: this makes her stand up straight and keeps her from slouching. Chest pushed forward: she's probably pulling in her stomach so she won't look fat. And heels of any kind have a tendency to make your butt stick out; she's probably not doing it on purpose. A lot of women are insecure about their weight, especially when the camera adds ten pounds. You'd be amazed at the lengths women go to just to appear skinny in photos. She may even be a victim of circumstance. Funny story: I was posing with my friends for a group photo at a party. I was not dressed slutty at all: jeans and a T-shirt. Just as the camera clicked, my friend (standing behind me) dropped an ice cube down the back of my shirt. Naturally, I reacted by pushing my hips forward, which forced my shoulders back. Consequently, in the photo, it looks like I'm sticking my boobs out. Moral of the story: don't judge someone by a photo. Thanks for sharing that with us. But some women do it when the camera is aim at them.
grkBoy Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Geez...you guys are harsh and overthink this. If the girl dresses like a hooker, got big fake boobs, and shows lots of leg and cleavage while every pic is of her in a nightclub hanging out with Jersey Shore wannabes...then I'll say she's a hottie, but I won't fathom pursuing her. WHY? Because based on my experiences, she's not looking for a guy like me. I'm not going to waste my time with a girl who only has eyes for athletic-types who buy bottle service every weekend. Not knocking their tastes in men, but it shows she wouldn't be into me. If she's posing for dating site photos and happens to put on a nice outfit, and even poses herself to make her body more flattering, then why dis? Maybe you're all only talking about the bonna-fide "attention whore"/"slut" photos, but I feel like some of you just over-analyze every little thing. Imagine if the girls who do the photos you speak of are all into you and want to be your girlfriends...would you all then criticize the photos?
Author coolheadal Posted September 12, 2011 Author Posted September 12, 2011 But "being sexy but in a subtle way" is incredibly vague. How in the world do you do that?? What does it mean? What does it look like? Part of the reason women post trashy sexy pictures is because they know how to do it (show skin and smirk.) I mean, what's "too" revealing as opposed to just "nice"? An inch of cleavage? No cleavage? But then women worry that it's too frumpy. Trying to negotiate the terrain of "sexy but not TOO sexy" really, really sucks as a woman, so perhaps guys like the OP could just cut some of the "trashy" women some slack. If your posing for yourself or friends or your lover only I can see that. But online cheap sexy shot, it's like your trying to seduce men.
Author coolheadal Posted September 12, 2011 Author Posted September 12, 2011 Geez...you guys are harsh and overthink this. If the girl dresses like a hooker, got big fake boobs, and shows lots of leg and cleavage while every pic is of her in a nightclub hanging out with Jersey Shore wannabes...then I'll say she's a hottie, but I won't fathom pursuing her. WHY? Because based on my experiences, she's not looking for a guy like me. I'm not going to waste my time with a girl who only has eyes for athletic-types who buy bottle service every weekend. Not knocking their tastes in men, but it shows she wouldn't be into me. If she's posing for dating site photos and happens to put on a nice outfit, and even poses herself to make her body more flattering, then why dis? Maybe you're all only talking about the bonna-fide "attention whore"/"slut" photos, but I feel like some of you just over-analyze every little thing. Imagine if the girls who do the photos you speak of are all into you and want to be your girlfriends...would you all then criticize the photos? My separated wife sisters out the 5 of them only 1 poses sexy online on FB. In the real world when they had did a family reunion photo album she again posed sexy images of her breast and behind sticking out when she did her lean and her hand was behind her head. Very large smile also. So now this large family of over 50 to 100 including grand kids you can see the sister-in-law stands out from the rest because of her sexy pose. To me someone should of told her this is not the right image to put in this keep sake picture. As for hoes I wasn't talking about them, I am talking about girls who think the should pose so sexy. My nieces on S-wife side did the same thing pose sexy out of the 6 girls only 2 have done this. I've mention this to their mothers but their mothers think it's cute.
verhrzn Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 If your posing for yourself or friends or your lover only I can see that. But online cheap sexy shot, it's like your trying to seduce men. Um... that's EXACTLY what they're trying to do. When you post pictures of yourself online, aren't you trying to seduce women??
grkBoy Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 My separated wife sisters out the 5 of them only 1 poses sexy online on FB. In the real world when they had did a family reunion photo album she again posed sexy images of her breast and behind sticking out when she did her lean and her hand was behind her head. Very large smile also. So now this large family of over 50 to 100 including grand kids you can see the sister-in-law stands out from the rest because of her sexy pose. To me someone should of told her this is not the right image to put in this keep sake picture. As for hoes I wasn't talking about them, I am talking about girls who think the should pose so sexy. My nieces on S-wife side did the same thing pose sexy out of the 6 girls only 2 have done this. I've mention this to their mothers but their mothers think it's cute. Meh. I never worry. I've known women who can't ever do any photos other than posing. I'm serious. You look at their Facebook photos and every shot, alone, with a group, with a SO, is "posed". Never one of just the spontaneous moment that isn't "posed". Some people are just like that. I know when I am getting a photo taken I'm trying to stretch my neck out and have good posture. Maybe it's because of the photography thing.
Author coolheadal Posted September 12, 2011 Author Posted September 12, 2011 Um... that's EXACTLY what they're trying to do. When you post pictures of yourself online, aren't you trying to seduce women?? Not talking about men. As a man I only have a nice smile image. You got all these dating sites and you know what images you see more of than just the smile. I guess the women is trying to grab you with her body looks than her smile.
NXS Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 But "being sexy but in a subtle way" is incredibly vague. How in the world do you do that?? What does it mean? What does it look like? Part of the reason women post trashy sexy pictures is because they know how to do it (show skin and smirk.) I mean, what's "too" revealing as opposed to just "nice"? An inch of cleavage? No cleavage? But then women worry that it's too frumpy. Trying to negotiate the terrain of "sexy but not TOO sexy" really, really sucks as a woman, so perhaps guys like the OP could just cut some of the "trashy" women some slack. Yeah it probably does come across as vague but for me it means very little or no cleavage and a nice top or dress. No sticking out ass and tits. Maybe a close-up of your face with a smile looking directly at the camera and another photo of 2/3 full body standing or sitting, again looking directly at the camera and smiling with your head slightly sideways. It's the expression that's subtly suggestive and not sticking your tits out. Also I see a lot of women posing with men?? I don't know why they do this it's a big turn off. Also posing with 2/3 girl friends and it's not apparent who the girl is?? It really depends on your age and what your looking for, if you want to be treated as a sexual object then objectify yourself and you'll probably get lots of guys looking for that. If you want something more then be more subtle.
Author coolheadal Posted September 12, 2011 Author Posted September 12, 2011 Well good to see some of you in agreement here about this..
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