nonameone Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 I've been through a lot in my life. Nothing has hurt this much. I'm now 30 hours NC and all I want to do is call and do one of the following: Ask if he thinks there is any chance at all we could get back together. Somehting I won't do because I don't want to hear the answer. Ask what I can expect if we are "just friends", how often will he call. Ask why he hasn't called me in the last 30 hours. Ask him if he wants to meet for coffee/lunch Say I'll be in the area.... This is killing me. I keep reminding myself that if I don't call I won't have to do the 30 hours over. I also remind myself that "friends" is an illusion. At some point one or both of us will have a girl/boyfriend and our "friendship" will become a thing of the past. I really don't know if I can do NC, but I also know that every interaction I have with him is like opening the wound back up. OK...here's to the next 30 hours.
Buttercup84 Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 I'm so sorry you are dealing with this . If I could turn back time I would not break nc . It's so hard and I have only been able to do nc for a weekend . But breaking nc made me more depressed . So that's my advice to you . RemAin nc as hard as it is xx
Besmy Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Stay NC. At this point in time he doesn't know himself whether he will ever be back with you again. He has not experienced missing you yet. He doesn't know what he has lost yet. GIVE HIM TIME (read this thread of mine for a laugh) There can be no friendship between ex as long as they are not completely and entirely over each other. Hold on dear. A hug.
Author nonameone Posted September 12, 2011 Author Posted September 12, 2011 And predictably, I felt like crap because JUST LIKE EVERY OTHER TIME, he says he'll get back with me and I wait all day. The last two times he said he was on his way over to see me he was at least 45 late with no call. I just have to keep images like this in mind (not that it works, the minute he sends a message I'm back in love). Turning off the phone.
pink glitter Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 You have to stay NC! It will make you hurt more if you call, you'll be back to square 1 again, I know how u feel I've ran back and broke NC twice n its brought me down even more. You have to be strong n try n think logically hun, your not alone x
ConfusedT Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 i have been through SO much heartache in my life. I never thought i'd love again, hell i swear i wouldn't. & i did and i had my heartbroke again. This is the worst heartache I've been through, because it was coupled with other lifechanging events, that once again, put me on a crazy tail spin emotionally. unfortunately, only time will help heal this pain. 30 hours is SO GOOD, you don't understand. Take it day by day. It gets harder, then easier, then harder, but if you commit to it, you will get through it. If you listen to nothing else we say, please continue to stay NC. 100%. if you do not distance yourself from him and the situation, you will break down more and more. TRUST ALL OF US FROM EXPERIENCE, the more contact the harder it is. Dont get me wrong, if you have kids, you have to talk to them, but i made it through the heartbreak with my kids dad too & i promise, with every day you'll get just a little bit stronger!!!! im not healed yet, but im getting there!
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